00:00:00] Hi, I'm Anne. And I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts, Helen? Physical is everything you can see with your human eyes. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical is that which you cannot see. Wi Fi, microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

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I'm very good. I'm looking [00:01:00] forward to hearing what your nudge is for the week. Me too. I'm not gonna lie. I felt well, I guess that's part of my nudge so we can go over it later. But other than I know we've got your retreat coming up And do we have any other housekeeping? I don't have anything else coming up here other than feel free to send us your questions.

Cosmic nudge time then. Okay, well, my Cosmic Nudge this week, I wanted to just, I don't know, I'm trying to stay out of the, like, complaining energy because it's not really complaining, but I am really struggling to stay motivated. Just something about my life or the energy at this time. I'm being really gentle and trying to balance the making myself do something because I should and also allowing and really embracing rest, which I've struggled in the past to [00:02:00] do.

So at the moment what I'm struggling with is staying motivated, like to clean, to do routine things that help my life run smoothly and just get me where I want to go. And I had this Thought or feeling that it might be similar to me expanding my stamina for joy, like in order to stay consistent, I would need to expand my stamina for success.

And that is your word for the year. It is. Yes. So I would like to give you, um, a broader picture of what's going on. So right now as Mama Earth is shifting frequencies, and there's going to be a lot of chaos. And a lot of big systems on our planet. At the same time, for those of us on a journey of spiritual awakening, of choosing love over fear, of choosing principle based thought, and wanting to be consistent and desiring to build stamina to have more good [00:03:00] in our lives for ourselves and through us for others, we are going to need a lot more rest.

And so some tips you might want to play with is if you need to get, you know, things done, dishes, laundry, gas in the car, making the beds, if that's necessary, packing lunches, whatever it is, cooking, if you tell yourself, Okay, this is just five minutes, I can do this for five minutes, or whatever. Making dinner and cleaning up dinner.

Okay, this is going to be an hour and 20 or whatever it is. And tell yourself, start teaching the mind, Hey, I'm doing this segment. Abraham channeled through Esther Hicks, that consciousness calls it segment intending. So if you start intending, I'm intending to get this done to make my life easier and to show up well, and it's only going to take X amount of time.

When you start playing this way, In the segment intending, you're going to have a lot [00:04:00] of energetic support getting things done efficiently and effectively. And then, you know, when you're tired, say, okay, I feel the need to rest and here's what I need to do. What can I let go of and what can I do? How much time is it really going to take?

So it's interesting evolutionary step for most of us that we are going to become quite skilled now in utilizing linear time as a tool that serves us. Instead of linear time feeling like it's misusing us, abusing us, right? So as you segment and tend your days, you will come out of this idea of You against time, not enough time, not enough energy, not enough motivation, not enough stamina.

Instead, you'll be the one saying, Oh, thank you. I get to do this. I'm putting this much time into it. I'm going to do it because I love [00:05:00] success. Because I love feeling good because I love the return on this. And when you just make that shift for your segment intending, you'll be amazed how much more time you have to rest and how much better you rest and how much more you get done.

So a segment is any different endeavor. Like if you're going to do emails, that's a segment. of reading and replying to emails. If you're going to text, that's a segment. If you're going to answer the phone, if you're going to cook, if you're going to go for a walk, if you're going to play, all these are segments that you could intend a time and emotional, mental, energetic vibration for it.

Okay, I had two things come up. The first one I'll talk about second. The second one I'll talk about first. When I'm making lists, of something that needs to be done. If I'm writing it down, I'm going to take the time to think about how much time I'm assigning to it. [00:06:00] And that way I don't have to look at the list and assign a time to it subconsciously every time I look at it.

Well, you'll train your mind to know. Mm hmm. And it's not to put pressure on you. Please do not. Misunderstand this teaching this suggestion. It's not to make yourself wrong or say, oh, I'm terrible with time or I went over or I misjudged that it's to build a new skill set. So expect to not be great at it.

And once you have train the mind like, well, this takes this long, this takes this long, you'll start having a feel for it. And eventually you won't have to think, you'll just know, Oh, it's time for me to do this. Oh, it's time for me to do that. I'll come back to this because your subconscious mind and your higher self.

would then start driving from that different energy place. So on your list, yes, guess at times and see how accurate you are. Make it fun, make it a game. And I would say [00:07:00] put one word next to it for the vibrational alignment for that segment. So laundry. I mean, I don't know that. Some people like laundry, but you know, come on, it's a chore you do and it's a chore you start and you come back and then you do a little more, but what would you like, what energy would you like to be in for laundry segments?

You know, mine is I want to be in appreciation. I freaking love appliances. I love that the dryer tells me when it's done. I love that the washing machine does all the hard work. I love that I don't have to hang it on the line where it's not feasible here. So, for me, laundry is about appreciation. Cooking is about playing with, pouring love into the food.

Really pouring love into it, cleanup or gardening or taking care of my car or grocery shopping. You know, I have different intentions for the [00:08:00] time and the segment of what I want to hit vibrationally. And again, this is not to make yourself wrong. This is not to, to be harsh and judgmental. Make it playful.

Like, well, what is possible if I feel this way? Hey, how are you liking those Gratitude is Alchemy sleep prompts? Oh, it's so lovely. It's that. Yeah. It's that for different things in the day. And if you can't think one up because you're sleep deprived or spread thin, and it's a new skill you're developing, always default to gratitude.

Because when you're in higher frequencies of gratitude instead of busy mind frequencies of feeling rushed or any kind of scarcity or victimization. You know, angels, the energies, the divine, your subconscious, everything steps in to help you. It's when we're in the lesser self, the reactive self, that we block that help.

And the retreat coming up, you know, I've [00:09:00] been asking, asking, asking, Hey, what's the theme? I haven't gotten it. And I do have it now, finally. And I'm like, you know, if I need to print things, I got to have a little bit of lead way here. I am bringing in the work of the Gratitude is Alchemy and just more work with the negative or what we call fear based emotions and flipping them.

By the end of the weekend, everybody's going to be confident in that. So that's going to be a helpful skill applying this new way. And the other part of the retreat that I'm being guided to learn with all of us at the same time as teach it is how to prepare ourselves to show up well in the unknown because we're in for about six years of not knowing what's coming.

Even our starting this recording for the podcast today, you had issues, I had separate issues. It was like, you know, best laid plans, right? Yeah. I think that's so, even this podcast, I mean, one of the purposes [00:10:00] was to be proactively available for people who are going to be popping into consciousness and to have this there as a tool and a guide in The format that wasn't necessarily, not that it wasn't available, but just, like, to be an extra tool, an extra thing that's there, if podcasts are your thing, and you'd like some support and assistance, by the time that you find this, maybe, you're looking through 200 episodes, who knows, but there are going to be so many topics and things that are applicable not just for right now, but for years to come.

They're universal. Yes, and for everybody listening, you know, send us questions so we know that this has value and keep with this format. I love the question and answer. I do too. Hopefully other people do. I hear that they do. And yeah, sometimes the questions don't [00:11:00] come in as I think they would or should, but I'm just fully trusting that I'm following the breadcrumbs.

So what's next will come, I think. Oh, absolutely. So, you know, I've been teaching adult spiritual class for since 2010. And about at least 15 years ago, I would say, I started texting the whole class a question a day. So, yeah. Absolutely. Mm. And I'm still doing it. And it's about learning to be in the energy you prefer when you ask the question because then it lets in a new level of consciousness in the answer.

Isn't that interesting? So a lot of times we ask questions in a way that doesn't allow us to receive. And so again, if you start playing with segment intending at this pivotal time on earth, be in the curiosity. Can I develop skill in this? Can I learn how to be in a flow state even though I'm incredibly [00:12:00] busy and have a lot of responsibilities?

And a good way to get there is not to boss yourself around or make things hard on you, but it's to ask good questions. How much fun could I have doing this? How gentle can I be with myself while I clean, would be mine. Yeah. Like, how can I use my mind, um, in a way that's gentle and loving while I'm doing a chore I don't really care for?

Right? It's when we ask questions that the mind seeks to go and find answers. Otherwise, your mind is just regurgitating what's already in there. It can't give you anything new unless you're willing to be in the question space. Yeah, I love that. That's changed my life, and sometimes I forget to do it. My other thing that I wanted to ask on is, I know it's only, I guess we're kind of almost done with January, but I'm just, I'm noticing you said, as an example, [00:13:00] or just, I'm trying to remember now, you said something like, I'm expanding into success or I'm looking basically to increase my success.

And when you said it, I felt my body go like, like I'm still. Oh, when I was coaching you on your word success. Yes. I still have like, it's almost a physical reaction of the word success. I still like hunch and. Back away from. And I'm saying still, it's only been a little bit that I've been working on this, but I'm just, I know that one day I'm going to hear the word success and I'm going to go forward.

Well, so we're going to do an exercise at the retreat for anybody who wants to. I guess I'll go ahead and tell you this part. So we'll all have, you know, name tags, especially for the first day or two. That's really just polite, right? But on it, I'm going to write everybody's name. For those whose handwriting is hard to read, and then I'm going to make it [00:14:00] not too big, and then under it, you're going to write your word.

So every time somebody who remembers looks at you and sees your word success, they'll say, Success looks so good on you, or, Oh, and tell me your favorite success, or, Hey, what's the best success you recently heard, or let me share a success story. But by the end of three days of this, your mind would have heard.

That you and success are buds from many different voices and energy fields. How fun is that? That's really fun. I love that. And I'm like, oh, it's going to be so good. Okay. It's not like, uh, how do I fix this? It's, uh, that's interesting. Let's see what helps. Yes. Nothing's broke. Yeah. It's just that there are parts of you not aligned to it.

and how do we as humans align to anything? Well, think of your children. Repetition. There's some [00:15:00] YouTube video, there's this guy who, he just hated If somebody said no to him, he was crushed. And he was like, how am I gonna, you know, get over this? And so he would walk up to people, and again it's in video, and he would say, Could I have your shirt?

They'd say no, and they were like, Oh, could I have a bite of your ice cream? And they'd be like, this is strangers, right? No! And he just set himself on a mission to collect like 20 no's a day for a while. And then he was completely Unfazed by the word no. So yours is the opposite. Yeah. And it's a matter of how many levels and layers karmically, spiritually, genetically, personality wise, childhood stories, cultural stories, are in the way of you being 100 percent aligned to the energy of success.

A lot. And we can't see them. So that's when playing with a vibration is very, [00:16:00] very helpful when it's not logical. And so, people acknowledging that, you playing with it, I'll take us through some exercises at the retreat, you'll be amazed. And then what happens is you get faster and faster at this. Faster and faster at just picking the next expansion and aligning to it.

Faster at aligning to whatever's next for you. That's what we get faster at. The alignment. Yeah. So it won't, in the future, it wouldn't necessarily take me a whole year to get aligned. Well, it's not going to take you a year. This will be so fun. We'll have the follow up on the podcast after the retreat.

Okay. Yes. And then we'll see. Cool. Yeah, we're such complex beings and so there's levels and layers we can't even perceive yet. Science is starting to measure some cool things and yet this is still one that can be a little tricky and it's just a matter of [00:17:00] anything on earth ever evolving. It's about repetition, repetition, repetition and developing skill and stamina for the new thought patterns and the emotional patterns that go with them.

Until the mind, heart, spirit, and field are all aligned in the same direction. Yeah, and it's not like an endless to do list, which I think is what I've viewed it as in the past. It's just getting in line as much as I want to, of whatever that looks like. Yeah, and so one of your segment intendings, pick something easy like dishes or brushing my teeth or housework, you know, mopping, cleaning, whatever, something kind of mindless and say, okay, I'm going to do this.

segment of housecleaning for 10 15 minutes, whatever, set your buzzer, and say in the whole time, I'm going to list everything I've ever been successful at. Oh. Oh, I wanted salt on my food and I did it [00:18:00] successfully. Oh, I turned on the light because I couldn't see. I mean, you can start silly and small, and what you would do is teach the mind that success is very normal to you.

You've been way more successful than not. You just have not embodied that perception yet. Oh yeah. And I mean, it's all, everything's success, whether that's what I would consider a positive or a negative outcome. Like, I've been successful to what I've been aligned to. Yeah. And yet, you know, think about it.

You successfully get yourself dressed every day, brush your teeth. Mother, you show up. If you just start easing your mind into the concept that you and success are old buds, then it makes it easier to go to the next level of success. Mm-hmm . Okay. We ready for our. Listener question from Jessica. Yes, please.

Okay. Jessica's question is, How can I support my children in developing emotional [00:19:00] intelligence from a young age, especially when I'm still developing my own? Oh, it's the best time. They will learn alongside with you. And there's nothing as powerful as a mother, you know, or any adult with children, a caregiver, a grandparent, a father, an older sippy man, working towards something that blesses everybody and sharing their mistakes like, Oh, I just did this and I wish instead I would have.

Oh, let's learn to name these emotions and talk about what they mean. And it's, it's just amazing what will happen. So the kids will get to see a true scenario of conscious evolution. Day by day, minute by minute, over a long course of time, they won't even know how they learned. And yet, what'll be happening in their little brains, their neuroplasticity, is [00:20:00] they'll see, oh, this is how you learn anything.

Make a step, two steps forward, one step back. Know something one day, and the next day it seems harder. Lovingly being reassured that mom's in it with them. That's the most beautiful teaching for mother and children. In my opinion. Yeah. These new kids are coming in with this whole different kind of outlook on life in my experience with them.

And that new outlook requires new and improved skills that I get to learn alongside my kids that weren't available to me at the time because it just wasn't supported at that time. And now it is. So I get to do it now. And they, they really are so much more sensitive. Uh, as little new beings in form on earth, they're very aware of what's authentic and what's BS.

They're very aware of lie energy. You know, if mom or [00:21:00] authority, teachers, neighbors are saying things, but their energy doesn't align to what they're saying. Kids are very aware of that. And so, yes, these children will call you out through their behavior or through their little facial expressions. And they'll also reward you when you get it right.

You want to know if you're right. Doing well emotionally, see how your child responds. And for me, my kids, who are big grown people now, which is so weird, 33 and 29, in just a week or two, they'll both be those ages, they were on this journey with me. And it really helped me because they didn't need all the repetition I did, actually.

They just learned it along with me, and they were very supportive for my journey. That's true. The reward, I mean, at least from my perspective that I get from my children when I'm getting it right, especially with my oldest, who's now five, and his body knows. [00:22:00] When I've gotten it right, I can almost see his heart just open up and the knowing and calm kind of settle into his body.

Like, ah, that's right. And it's, it's right by what you choose. It's not like they're going to make you write wrong for what they want. They're amazing little beings, right? Yeah. They will know when mom's on target for her target. And they'll act all challenging when you're not. I love, I Yeah, I will continue to have conversations with them about what my target is because they are so sensitive to whether or not I'm on that and then we're clear together on I'm never gonna give you totally permissive parenting because that doesn't go along with the way that I want to parent.

People can choose to parent however they want to but if that's what you're looking for you're not gonna get that there [00:23:00] so let me tell you what I am gonna give you when I'm aligning to what I actually want to give you. Right, and when you keep reminding them that your mission is fun and safe, you teach them to think.

So the one thing I see that parents forget to do is ask their kids questions, like, Oh, you're feeling this emotion. What do you remember what that means? Do you remember what we could choose instead? Do you want mommy to do the process with you right now? Or do you want to think about it? You know, when you ask, you actually teach the children to think well.

And to be in their own authority, and that's when people learn the best. And sometimes with them, either of them, sometimes if I'm jumping in immediately and asking questions, they just get really frustrated. So sometimes people just need their space. Do I just keep, you know, coming back each time and bringing a question up?

You just want [00:24:00] to say, okay, are you, do you want to talk about this now or later? Yeah, but then I have to remember to come back to it. Don't just drop it. Yeah, and yet, if your intention is really heart centered, like Okay, this happened, we're all emotional, let's address this later. What do you think? After lunch?

Should we go for a walk in the park? You know, you can pre pave that you're setting up a time, and then their little selves will get caught up with it, and so will yourself. It is about reading the room, for sure. And that's a good skill to have, because the minute you get good at the 5 year olds, they're going to be 10.

And then you get good at the 10 year olds and then they're going to be 12. Oh my gosh, is that an age with boys? And you get good at that and they're going to be teenagers. And so it's always about asking yourself the question first, is my timing going to give me the solution and the results I'm aiming for, or do I need to wait or ask?

When's a good time for you? [00:25:00] Hey, I'm using the mommy card right now and what mommy says goes and then we can have discussions later Because it is your job to keep them safe and guide them. Yeah, and I think that's just um for me It's a lot of practice of waking myself up in those moments that are Highly emotionally charged and remembering to talk and ask myself questions first, which is the best teaching Do you like it better when mommy can remember and catch herself and talk?

Or do you like it better when mommy acts emotionally intense? And they'll tell you I'm not the intense. Not the intense, for sure. But yeah, I think that, especially when they're little, they do like to hear me go through the process of, Oh, I'm feeling angry in my head or my tummy. I'm going to take a big breath and ask myself, what should I do now?

Kind of thing, so. That's beautiful [00:26:00] modeling for them. And how many times do you think they have to hear that till it completely saturates their subconscious? I don't know, about a thousand? Yeah, because it's tough. It's tough to remember. And think how many times we repeat to teach our children to say thank you, or please.

So why wouldn't we think the bigger stuff would also take a lot of repetition? And not just for kids, for us. One of the really important things for them, and I, I'm sure it's everyone, it's just that the five year old's really good at telling me when he feels like he's being judged too harshly or treated too harshly or something.

But he really Advocates and speaks up for himself and sometimes I'm like, no, like we do have to stop. I try and remind him, you're not in trouble. We're just not going to do that. You're not in trouble. We're just going to take a big breath. You're not in trouble. And I think that's a really good reminder for myself.

I'm not in trouble because I didn't handle that well. I'm just going to choose [00:27:00] something differently. That's, yeah, that's beautiful. And then, yeah, the big reminder that it's It's not about trouble. It's about being safe and having fun in the big picture. And sometimes that means we stop what we're doing because other things have priorities.

Yeah, it's a beautiful thing, this, this new era. Children are not going to just follow directions because people said so and they're afraid of them. That's just not happening. Well, we all, I don't know too many people who do want their kids to just be afraid of them. The parenting generation now, at least in my bubble, I'm sure I over generalized, but in my bubble, people are really interested in teaching skills and not just imposing their beliefs.

And it's fascinating, like, Disney having the movies about emotions and You know, it's just a new time on Earth. It's beautiful. I was thinking about that today, about Inside Out, Moana, [00:28:00] and just how much my son loves Moana and how brave she is and about how there's just all these new concepts or ways to communicate these concepts to children that it's specifically for them.

It's available now. It's amazing. One of my friends called and said, Hey, I'm at the kids elementary school and they have the seven habits in kid language on the walls. That is amazing. I love it. Fabulous time to be alive right now. Okay, well, do you have a Helen question or challenge for Jessica? Yes, Jessica, if you don't already have it, have you defined your mission statement?

You notice I referenced Anne's a few times. Hers is to have fun and be safe. And so if you have an arching mission statement as how you want to mother your children, guide your children, support your children in growing into amazing adults and loving life, it's very helpful to always be able to reference that.

And [00:29:00] not just for the children. They get that it's not personal what's going on. It's about a big picture that mother is providing for them. It's also a great way to guide yourself. Hey, if I do this, am I really aligned to what I want to know about myself as mother? Mission Statements. Really can keep us on track if we have it in a clear, concise way to utilize often.

So, Jessica, that's my question to you. Do you have your mission statement? And if you do, then the next part of it would be, are you regularly speaking it to your children? And it would sound like Anne saying to her boys, Well, we are going to stop this or hey, we're going to plan this because it's my job to love you, keep you safe, and make sure we have fun at the same time.

For my kids, I taught them, uh, having fun is hard work. Because it was a lot of work. Because, you know, it's a lot of prep, the things we would [00:30:00] do all day, fun things. And interestingly, that turned out to be a beautiful teaching for my boys, because they don't mind work. They don't see work as anything punishing, or they expect to work hard and be rewarded well in their own minds.

So the things that we repeat a lot, we want to make sure We're in the energy of what we're intending through it. Like, my energy wasn't, it's hard work, suffer. My energy was, oh yeah, this is what it takes, and then we have an amazing time. I think that's missing maybe a little bit from me, is that I'm allowed to expect, and not in an entitled way, just like, I'm allowed to believe that fun follows hard work, that reward follows hard work.

It, it's not self centered, it's not expecting too much. It's just, that's how it goes. I work hard, and then I have this amazing outcome. If you work hard, you can play hard, you know. And so, yeah, in our family, [00:31:00] hard didn't mean anything bad or horrible. Again, it doesn't mean everybody needs to use that word.

You just want to find the words that convey to your children the match for what your mission statement is. Absolutely. So Jessica, thank you so much. I hope we hear some updates and more questions from your commitment to raise your children as a highly emotionally intelligent being. And thank you, Helen.

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