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Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I'm Anne. And I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts, Helen? 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eyes. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical is that which you cannot see. Wi Fi, microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that which you can't perceive with the human eye. Street smarts means let's take the woo woo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. in this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in. That was the first time that's happened.[00:01:00] 

Anne: And having a little trouble being grounded, girlfriend? What are you talking about? Everything's fine. Well, hi, Helen. We're recording now.

Helen: I love, um, you know, bloopers, forgetting to turn the recording on. I love it.

Helen: Ah, how are you 

Anne: doing this week? I'm doing very good. Thank you. Good. Good to hear. Um, I thought we'd start off with another review from the Apple Podcasts. Oh, exciting. I know. So this one's called Vibing with This, and it's from Kristen Redd. And she said I've been a longtime fan of Helen, and I've had the pleasure of working with her as well as attending retreats where I could work with her one on one and in a group setting.

Anne: She has been so instrumental in helping me change my entire mindset, [00:02:00] increasing my vibrational energy, and healing myself in ways that have really blown me away. Take a listen, you will be so glad you did. Thank you for having a podcast so I can listen in whenever I want. Thank you, ladies. Keep up the good work.

Helen: Oh, I know who that is. And I will just add into that review that we were connecting on phone. We don't live in the same state and She was saying, God, I just need a Helen fix and, um, it's so good to hear your voice. And I started laughing. I said, well, guess what? You can hear my voice once a week. Now there's a podcast.

Helen: And I'm like, were you part of manifesting that? Oh yeah. She was calling it in. Yeah, isn't that fabulous? And she went and listened and I know she shared it with people and I'm, thank you so much for putting the review. I think that helps the numbers or stats or, and it's nice for Anne and I to hear it's valued.

Anne: Yeah, honestly, it does help. It does help other people [00:03:00] find the podcast. It helps it show up in people's feed. But also I just love hearing it. I love hearing from people. It's so nice. So thank you for 

Helen: doing that, Kristen. So much. Thank you. And she is a miracle worker. What I've seen her, uh, use her mind as a tool to transform and to allow in is just amazing to witness.

Helen: I just know many awesome people. Yeah. I wish 

Anne: I, I wish I could picture her and put a face to the name, but I I'm grateful and I'm. I'm sure I love you already.

Anne: Okay, Helen, um, I think you've got something coming up pretty soon. Oh, 

Helen: I am so excited. Thank you for remembering and asking. And, and it's because of this that I offered, you know, people send in that they, you [00:04:00] know, screenshots of a subscriber review, they could be, they could also send in something they want to tap on, and I'll just put a big tapping together, right?

Helen: Uh, because tapping's on my mind. On Saturday, March 15th, if you're in the Houston area, um, there's the Wellness Expo in Conroe, and they invite me every time to do a 30 minute group tapping. It's very fun. And then, miraculously, in my opinion, and I'm so excited, you can probably tell by my voice, is I got a call from the Houston Ions group.

Helen: So I get to go for the first time in my recollection and tap with people on anything metaphysical. How fun is that? 

Anne: That's so fun. And so 

Helen: I'm excited I get to talk about it because I want to bring attention to that group and also, um, I want to let you know that I will have my videographer, he's going to be [00:05:00] there, he's going to record the tapping and a little bit about the group and the history of the group and we'll post it somewhere where you can access it.

Helen: It's not for everybody, but for the people who are interested, it'll be fun. 

Anne: Totally. And we can, uh, we can put a link to that on our Instagram as well when that's available. 

Helen: Awesome. And so, you know, I, I teach in a grounded way, and yet my true passion is all the woo woo stuff. 

Anne: It's the, it's the energy behind it.

Anne: It calls to me, that's all I can tell you. Well, thanks for staying down here for a little bit, so we can hear from you. 

Helen: So Anne, I can't wait to hear, what was your cosmic nudge for this week? 

Anne: Okay, this week, what popped up for me was, Uh, working on consciously finding a balance with, uh, my throat and my voice and what I say and express.

Anne: My main goal, and this is, this is the negative [00:06:00] side of it, I haven't gotten to the positive side of it yet, is to stop abandoning myself. And I said that with a laugh, and it kind of goes along with last week's as well as, uh, there was a really profound moment with Beth, I don't, it's mostly about me, so I don't think she'll mind.

Anne: Me sharing, but Beth and Andrea, who was. Doing acupuncture at the retreat and Andrea asked me do you want to sit here or here and I said Oh, I'll sit here just in case anyone else is coming and then they don't have to have their face in the Sun And she was like, you're literally taking a chair. You don't want For someone that doesn't exist.

Anne: And Beth, she was kind of doing her thing in the corner and she heard me say that and she like swooped in as well. And so it was both of them, which is what I needed to really bring my attention to it. And I was like, how many times a day do I do that? I, I pride [00:07:00] myself on being, trying to be conscious and taking care of people.

Anne: Am I 100 percent at it? No, that's not really my goal. But. My aim is to be a conscious, kind, considerate person. I'm taking it a little bit far, and maybe misapplying some of this when I'm allowed to sit in a chair that doesn't put my face in the sun and make me uncomfortable, even though someone else might need a chair later.

Anne: Which they didn't. It was just me. 

Helen: So, so what I would say is, why would you not be included in the kind and considerate? 

Anne: I think I, it's this, uh, thing where I've heard people say, and I've, I've seen it in, in marriages, relationships around me, is that when you feel Bonded with someone in some way that [00:08:00] sometimes people can start viewing the other people as extensions of themselves and so not giving the same kind of consideration that they would give to people outside their, their innermost circle.

Anne: You know, like the, the people that are closest to us get the worst of us, that kind of mentality. And. I think I've accidentally somehow included myself in that, of like 

Helen: And I would challenge, why would the people we get to love, the people closest to us, why would we ever treat them badly? Including ourselves.

Anne: I think that there's, I think there's like a, the rate of exposure is a lot, cause no one's, no one's perfect, no one's happy all the time, no one's anything all the time, and the rate of exposure for some people, and I know I'm not the only one, makes it feel like, well it's just inevitable that they're gonna, you know how the, [00:09:00] It takes ten good things, or things said, to just break even with one negative thing that's said.

Anne: I'm not really saying that properly, but like, that our brain, our minds remember the negative 

Helen: thing. Not everybody's. Those of us with traumatized emotional bodies tend to remember the negative. People who are living their best version and know how to think and feel secure and comfortable being human.

Helen: They don't hold on to it. They don't keep score. Uh, the my might and yet for me, I as a child, I thought that was insane that you would be rude to the people you live with. I just never understood that. Rude or ugly or short or unappreciative and I, I just never understood that and so in my family, we definitely did it differently.

Helen: And yet many people are raised to believe that love means [00:10:00] abuse, bitterness, resentment, attack, verbal criticism. There's all kinds of versions of human love that are not very comfortable. And yet it comes back to the same thing. Uh, here's, here's something I love. You ready? I don't even know who this, who's this is.

Helen: There's a rule for speaking. Three things. Is it kind? Is it true? And is it necessary? And why wouldn't you include yourself in is it kind? And is it true and is it necessary? Yeah. And so yeah, we're not perfect. I mean, we have to choose to learn this stuff and then we have to choose to practice it until we get better at it, until it becomes normal in our dominant way of being.

Helen: Um, and yet, it helps if we have some parameters we're aiming for. Another way, on one of the podcasts, I think we talked about this with somebody who'd sent in a question. It's that quote, Are you the star of your own show, or are you the, are you the leading actress in your movie, [00:11:00] right? It's like, oh, I'm here and the chair's there, I'm gonna pick the one that's comfortable.

Helen: That's like owning the stage, right? Or are you the supporting role? Well, the, the head of the show's coming later, I better make nice for it. And it's like, well, who's, who? Who? Who's coming later? I heard it in a beautiful way. I am the love story of my life. Amazing to say that, right? And I remember when I first read, I was doing a meditation, I forget who it was from now, this was like decades ago, and in the meditation you would repeat, I am the most important person in my universe.

Helen: Which like triggered all my buttons, I could not say that. And I was practicing, practicing, practicing with this meditation. And I look at my teenage son and I say, Hey! Who's the most important person in your universe? And he stops and he thinks for about 10 seconds and he goes, well, it would have to be me, right?

Helen: Because if I'm not here, I don't have a universe. And I'm like, oh my gosh, why do my kids get the things I work? I can't, I can't [00:12:00] get. I'm working so hard over here and he just gets it. And the way you said it made perfect sense. Well, of course, I have to be the most important because, That's how I experience.

Helen: I mean, I'm it. I'm the center of my experiences. 

Anne: I love how we get to just build more and more on things we've touched on because I think I, you're right. We have talked about this in a similar way, not exactly this. And we get to go deeper each time we talk about it. And, because I think the last time was You know, me discovering, like, romance is all around me.

Anne: I am, I live a romantic story. And that I love, I am the love of my life. Like, How would I treat that love of my life? Do I feel like it's taking something away from someone else for me to spend my time with this person or to put [00:13:00] effort into taking care of this person? No. 

Helen: And you know, it's a, it's a big thing and we could look at all the reasons why codependency, being female, being of service, what we were taught to be good girls, blah blah blah blah blah, none of it matters why.

Helen: What really matters is, oh, I'm aware I could do a little better showing up for me and I'm aware I could receive at a higher level and then just working on solution. The why's don't even matter. 

Anne: Yeah, I think the, like, piece that I'm going to be confronted with is that my, oh, it's the win win win. It's that my success, my comfort, my happiness does not take away from someone else, just like my, I'm not taking anything from anyone else.

Anne: And that's how it feels, 

Helen: felt. Here's what I always taught my boys when, when in school when people acted badly, the bullies, the [00:14:00] grumpy teachers, I would always remind them that's because they don't feel good. So it's really important you figure out how to manage yourself so that you feel good because when you feel good, you're nicer, kinder, more generous.

Helen: And I, I don't know, I missed that memo when I was growing up and, and just experiencing life. And so when I felt good, as good as I could feel, I was a great mom, a great wife, a great friend. And when I didn't feel good, not so much. It's like that saying, you know, in the airplane, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then help the person next to you.

Anne: Totally. And also that brings up one time, Kaden and I were having a discussion. about just the way I was showing up in kind of my life at that time. Just always so tense and defensive and, and I said something like, But I, I have to take care of myself first. I have to put my [00:15:00] oxygen mask on first. And he's like, But not everything's an emergency.

Anne: Like, you're actually not not in an emergency. Like, actually you don't Maybe don't need an oxygen mask right now and I was like, what do you mean? I'm alive Of course, I need an oxygen mask, but ah, can you imagine living like 

Helen: that? Well, I think most women do the rushing woman the high fight flight fright freeze or flop or faint There's a lot of F's in that one You know, and this is what evolution is.

Helen: How do we have all these choices and all these possibilities of learning how to choose inner peace and kindness and, and honor ourselves without it meaning we have to take away from something else. Like being the happy mom enjoying children and messy houses and cleaning up messy houses and cooking and cleaning.

Helen: Being the happy mom and that is way different. Right? It's, you know. You get to define what your target is and how you can keep moving towards that until it's normalized. And then you're off and running for the next target. And you don't need an oxygen mask on Earth.

Helen: You only need it if there's an emergency. Right. There's plenty of oxygen. 

Anne: Right. That's what, he's like, you don't have to wear an oxygen mask. I'm like, what do you mean? The air is fine. It feels really poisonous right now, for my whole life. And, uh. Oh man, what a journey that man has been on with me. 

Helen: Oh, my husband I always laugh and say it's like he's been married to like a lot of different women.

Helen: He met me when I was angry and opinionated and self righteous and then I became a mother and it was all about that. And then I got on the spiritual journey. I can't believe he's still [00:17:00] like so amazing with me. 

Anne: After all that, you ready for our listener question this week? Yes, absolutely. Okay, so this one comes from MSL.

Anne: Those are the initials that were sent in. How can we sustain living in love and light? 

Helen: The same answer I give on everything, practice, practice, practice and build stamina for it. And it's very logical and grounded. The way things work on earth is the way everything works on earth, even spirituality and love and light.

Helen: Hang out with people who You know, model for you that, you know, for me, I always want to get around teachers that are way more evolved than me, even if it's hard for me to understand, because that builds my stamina for truth and knowledge. And I love recharging with people who hold beautiful light and love.

Helen: And also I read. a lot about [00:18:00] how to choose that, how to guide my mind as a tool. And then I practice things that raise my frequency consistently, you know, purposefully. So it's the same answer as anything. If you wanted to be good at whatever career you had in your life, MSL, you would have immersed yourself in learning about the people who are successful in it.

Helen: You would have done continuing education for it. You would have kept up with technology and, uh, Things that would influence it, depending on what career field you're in, and it's exactly the same for anything you want while you're in human form. Expose yourself to people who are already living it, doing it, push yourself to build stamina for it, and just keep enjoying it.

Helen: And one of the biggest things I think people forget on their own journey is share your success. And compliment yourself and make note of when [00:19:00] you, wow, I was really loving and light filled in that interaction, mind, soul, personality, we want more of that. So often in a career, Or like say this podcast, you know, reviews give us some feedback, right?

Helen: And yet when you're on a spiritual journey, a personal journey, you may not always get that feedback. So it's really important you give yourself that feedback and also have friends maybe you could talk about it with. And, you know, we've been taught that bragging It's really bad. So for just a minute, I want to talk about the difference.

Helen: Bragging means I gotta sound better than you. Sharing success and being delighted in your success means Oh my gosh, this felt good. I want more of it. What do you think about this? And you want the people that you could celebrate successes with. Being light filled, being love filled. You know, when we did the women's [00:20:00] retreat, I got so much feedback on this was the most loving retreat.

Helen: I gotta say one funny one. Ready? Yeah. Somebody said, Oh my gosh, I've never seen so many women all touchy feely. Somebody even held my hand. And by the end of the retreat, I wanted to hug everybody too and did. So that's an example of somebody who maybe wanted to be a little more vulnerable and open to physical contact that was loving and didn't have any other agenda and, uh, took a little warm up.

Helen: But how? How amazing is that, that she shared that with me? And so being around people who are loving, if, you know, think of all the hobbies in the world. It always amazes me the hobbies humans have, right? They're so diverse. Get around groups of people who value being filled with light and love, who value choosing love and light over fear.

Helen: create contact with it through books, through podcasts, through [00:21:00] groups, through energy workers, through situations and circumstances. I met one woman who had natural mediumship abilities and, you know, felt the fear of sharing thing, information that was coming through to her. And she said when she went to a, I think it was a Hay House conference and she saw Many thousands of people there.

Helen: She just cried in relief that she wasn't the only one. So just like anything else, follow the same protocols for success. And, uh, you'll just keep expanding your stamina and capacity. To radiate, to receive love and light. So then my question would be to, to MSL is, uh, again, engage the egoic part of the mind, which likes to weigh, measure, and compare.

Helen: Have a journal where you write down successes, where you write what felt good to you and why, where people [00:22:00] said back to you, wow, I just feel so much calmer around you, or You know, the light is reflected, right? And people will use different language to explain that. Or write down where you received, where you were around somebody who radiated love and light, because when you do that, you're bringing it to a level of groundedness.

Helen: Humanness that will support you. I guess that would be the, I am light and love journal. What I wanted to learn about unconditional love. I was like, like, what is that? Like how would I do that? So I thought, and at that stage in my life, I, you know, my parents were a trigger, and I'm sure it was a trigger to them too, just saying.

Helen: And so I decided because I needed nothing from them, I didn't need money from them, I didn't need support from them. I didn't need to live with them. I didn't need food from them. shelter, anything. I decided, let me practice with them. And they lived like two hours away, so I would [00:23:00] spend this two hour drive.

Helen: Really thinking about what would unconditional love mean? What would it look like? What would it sound like? And I gotta tell you, I was really not very strong. I did not have much stamina for it. And yet, over this two hour drive there, and the two hour drive home would usually be Ho'oponopono or some other exercises around triggered emotions.

Helen: And over time, I developed a lot of stamina. And by the time my mother died, it was an amazing thing. experience to witness how much I had healed for myself, the quality of my experience as a daughter to this woman. And I think the qual she literally said the quality of her experience as my mom changed too because of what I focused on.

Helen: And yet I'm telling you, it was a lot of years and it was a lot of two hour focus. How would, how would I stand? What would I ask? [00:24:00] How would I listen? What would my face look like? When would I shut up and when would I uh huh when they're talking? Because unconditional love doesn't try to change anybody. So I immersed myself in the concept and the practice of it.

Helen: Pretty cool. Pretty cool. All right. 

Anne: Well, thank you Once again, Helen, I appreciate all your time and showing up and 

Helen: being amazing. It's pretty fun to be me at this stage So thank you for setting up this platform Everybody send in those questions

Helen: Let us know what you want us to chit chat about So joyous. Thank you so much, everybody. Thank you. 

Anne: Thank you. We'll see you next time. Bye.

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Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay grounded.