Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in. 

Helen: Hi, Helen. Hi Ian. I'm looking forward to hearing about your cosmic nudge. I enjoy those [00:01:00] so much. 

Anne: I enjoy them too, mostly because I just get a chance to shamelessly ask questions that have been plaguing me. But also 

Helen: because they just pop up. Oh, they do just pop up at odd times. 

Anne: Yeah, odd times.

Anne: Sometimes I'll get to when we're gonna record and I need, I need one or two, and I'll sit down and think about it. But it, yeah, most of the time it's just pops in. I'm like, oh, that's what, okay, cool. That's what it is. So. That's fun. 

Helen: I love it. So what you got for us today? 

Anne: So today I wanted to bring up the idea that in order to grow and access my own intuition, I've needed to learn how to value spending time connecting with myself and valuing my own thoughts and what I have to say.

Anne: That, um, it can be pretty [00:02:00] easy to. Say to a friend, like, Hey, let's have some fun time together and pull some cards and drink some tea. But to grow in this, I've had to make myself my friend in that to say. Like, it's worthwhile for me to sit down with myself, and I think, I don't know if it's a, an experience of a codependent person or just me or I don't know what, but my experience has been, it has been difficult to feel like it's worth doing even when no one's watching.

Anne: It's worth doing even when no one's there to hold my hand, uh, it's worth doing for myself. And I just wanted to bring that up because I talk to a lot of people who are like, I want, I wanna do this. I wanna have a relationship with my intuition or figure out how to do things. Really all I can really recommend is.

Anne: [00:03:00] Asking, are you friendly with yourself? Are you happy to accept that there's not like some magical, for most of us, not some magical being that's gonna like pop into the room with you and hold your hand? Like, are you willing to be there and be kind and, and listen and value your unique take and what you bring in as much as you would someone that you can.

Anne: Ask a question too. 

Helen: So I wanna say, first of all, to the audience and to you too. I got to go and be a speaker with EFT. I was doing group tapping with the Ions Group of Houston and we recorded it. And when I got there, much to my surprise, they wanted me to tap. On intuition. So then I was scrambling to get like some exercises we could do as a group.

Helen: And my dear friend Alan videoed it and it, it is free on my website. And so you can go access, I think it's an hour and a half maybe of tapping and learning about intuition. [00:04:00] And the basic part that I would say to you is, well. You know? Yes. You have to be, you have to like and love yourself enough to spend quiet time to develop intuition.

Helen: Yeah. You know, there are guides and spirits and angels that will talk to you. You can't hear them if your mind is always busy. Mm-hmm. So if you can't spend relaxed, loving, kind, calm time with yourself, you'll never develop that connection in a way that you can benefit from it. Does that answer what you were saying?

Helen: Yeah. It is about being kind to and liking yourself, and the reason is because it's through a quiet mind. That you can hear, you know, other dimensional truth and wisdom. 

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: And then once you develop the ability to access information and verify it's correct, you have to like build a skill, right? You have to practice, keep track.

Helen: When do I know it's true? [00:05:00] When do I know my personality or ego or hopes jumped in? Like how do I discern the difference? And then once you've developed the ability to get quiet, mind intuition will pop in Un. Question just to help you, and it's delightful. And yet first you have to be able to access quiet mind presence.

Helen: You know, I love it when I'll spontaneously have quiet mind and I'm in the present moment and I'll hear A plant is thirsty or food is cooked even if it's not at my house, at somebody else's oven. I love when I'm able to access that kind of connective giving and receiving, and. You know, if I'm doing it on purpose, it's a lot more work because I've, I know I need to get into the quiet mind first and open my heart.

Anne: I think part of the crucial benefit of having that quiet time is that it's the not, I don't need to go and share what I [00:06:00] heard so that I can have someone else, what's the word? Like, confirm or validate what I've. What I've received or felt or be wowed or admired 

Helen: you 

Anne: for? Yes. Yes. That's what I mean, like that.

Anne: That my own experience. It can be good enough and worthwhile. Worth making time for that for. 

Helen: Yeah, so when you need validation or you need somebody to be impressed, you know you're an ego and ego's noisy. Ego has a lot of opinions. It has a lot of story. It jumps from the past to the future, and it creates all this drama, whether it's positive drama or negative drama, and quiet mind is the absence of that ego voice.

Helen: And yet we don't wanna villainize it because the ego is part of being human. The ego also supports us in survival and being on time and having preference and, and unique [00:07:00] personalities. You just wanna learn how to be in partner, where you can have ego step back and let you access this other realm that's a higher frequency.

Anne: I think it's so. Interesting to me because I think previously I must have been and already know. I, for a large part of my life have been very ego driven. And the big reason why I would want to connect with my intuition is so I could say, look at me. But, uh, it's so fun to not feel that anymore. And that's a, that's like a protective mechanism of like, I need someone to validate this because, because I didn't value my own opinion or think that I was smart enough to know something for myself.

Anne: But it's so nice to just hear something and know it's for me, and that's enough. I love it. 

Helen: Yeah. And it takes a lot of work to get there, so [00:08:00] kudos to you. And also, in my opinion, it's just a hell, an opinion. Um, you know, our media and all we're exposed to such fantastic special effects in movies and. Um, our technology is literally amazing what we can Google or I can send money or a text or an email so rapidly I can do so many things so quickly.

Helen: And so then. When we think about these spiritual gifts and skills that we wanna develop, we want, you know, the special effects, right? We want it to be a magical, why wouldn't we? Um, and it's, you know, it's like, yeah, okay. It's, it's, uh, real time. Let's play here. And what really connects to my heart and your heart's not so dramatic.

Helen: But the, the ego part of the mind and the personality loves drama. Positive and negative both. 

Anne: Mm, so true. [00:09:00] Yeah. Likes the big swings. Hmm. Okay. We're ready for our listener question this week. Yes, please. Okay. Awesome. Who do we have today? Jasmine. Jasmine, thank you for sending in a question. Okay. Jasmine wrote in.

Anne: Is it possible to spiritually outgrow someone you love? I'm evolving, but some relationships in my life feel like they're pulling me back, maybe even my partnership. 

Helen: So that is a very interesting question. I'm gonna answer you in two different ways, vibrationally. You can evolve out of ego as we were just speaking out of judgment, out of the fear-based emotional reactions as a habit.

Helen: Instead of conscious thought and choice of choosing more and more love and light, you can vibrationally end up losing a lot of friends. And let me go further with that. When you're vibrationally coherent and cohesive and [00:10:00] aligning. To love, integrity, kindness, forgiveness, patience, all the things we know that love is in a broader sense than just human love.

Helen: You no longer attract people who would attack you, betray you, steal from you, physically hurt you. Uh, you, you vibrate out of. Those consciousness levels to a great degree, unless there's a karmic lesson or no level of fear that you have to face. And in that, sometimes we do vibrationally bounce right out of friendships.

Helen: And yet if you're really focused on being. A light worker bringing light to the planet, into your life, into your experience, into the way that you perceive and interact with others and, and your existence. Then the vibrational shedding, it won't be traumatic or ugly. People will quit calling you, quit hanging around.

Helen: Schedules won't coordinate, but nobody will have bad feelings. [00:11:00] So now I'm gonna go further into your question about in. Relationship, I'm assuming you mean in personal romantic relationship partnership. So that's an interesting concept because if you go all the way into high frequency, evolve into true spiritual love, which is beyond human love, you could be with any partner and be happy.

Helen: And yet, if you're on a journey of growing and your partner keeps choosing things that don't match integrity or ethics or morals that are at a baseline of what we discern as principle based living that we all agree on, the way you can know it's principle based or spiritual law is. Nobody would agree.

Helen: It's good to be a liar. Like none of us wanna be lied to, right? Nobody would agree. It's good to steal. Nobody would agree. It's good to be prejudice because we wouldn't want people judging us in prejudice or, or make laws where we couldn't [00:12:00] do things. So spiritual law is pretty self-evident. So if your partner isn't against spiritual law, then there just might be a space where you feel.

Helen: Alone in your growth, and yet they can be a really good anchor to keep you grounded. And you might be surprised how it turns out. So you could of course outgrow somebody. You just wanna do it consciously and understand what it is you're outgrowing. Not the person, but what the person is committed to in their life.

Helen: And then you want to know that. I believe all of us on this journey feel alone at some point. And then we come into a new frequency that allows friends that are on the same journey or colleagues that are on the same journey, more and more of those to come into our life. And then personally, Jasmine, I would share with you that my husband's not into this.

Helen: He [00:13:00] doesn't read what I read. He doesn't meditate, he doesn't, um, he definitely doesn't do EFT and. People used to ask me, well, isn't that hard for you? And on my journey, it was a lot of growth, um, from who I used to be. It was like, no, I'm glad one of us is like, holding down the fort is grounded enough to me.

Helen: He's like my lighthouse, my anchor. It lets me go really out on the fringes, right? Push my comfort level all the way. And yet my husband has great integrity. He has great kindness. He's very dependable. He's very realistic. He's grounded. He, he does design work. He's a senior designer with cad, you know, he did it first by hand.

Helen: Now he does it with 3D computers, and so he's, he and I are very different, and yet it's, for me, it's the best partnership there could be. Because we share spiritual laws, we treat our family well, each other's [00:14:00] families well each other well. We're respectful of community and animals and money and life, and there was no need for me to dump him for somebody on my journey, right?

Helen: Whereas a lot of people couldn't believe, and yet, I gotta say it's been wonderful having him support me. 

Anne: I love that. I love hearing you talk about that. Just there's so many I, Caden, and I have found. So we've been married 13 years, I think, something like that. And um, and kind of probably around like the two or three year mark, we realized that we have fundamentally different definitions for pretty important words.

Anne: And so anytime we are having like a big argument or what feels big. Especially around that mark where we were like, this cannot, we cannot keep doing this and like arguing about these [00:15:00] things that you would think we'd agree on. And it turns out we mostly did agree. We just words meant different things to each of us.

Anne: And so. It sounded like we were saying different things, but we were actually saying the same thing and it's, it's not wrong to be different, it just requires additional understanding, communication, consideration. 

Helen: Yeah. And there were times I would think, in my fearful mind. What's a wrong with my husband?

Helen: What if I'm crazy and he's not reigning me in, right? Because really making a living, doing EFT, playing with energy work, like it's pretty out there. And, um, less so now than when I started, right? And yet he's always been respectful and supportive of me. It's a very unique situation. And so it's not wrong if you choose to separate.

Helen: It's not. Wrong if you choose to stay, it's just you wanna get in aligned with what is [00:16:00] it you want in the relationship and is that possible? And always, whether it's a girlfriend, a family member. A neighbor, a colleague, or a romantic partner. You know, be sure that if you're letting go of the friendship or relationship, you're doing it in loving energy, not anger or fear energy.

Helen: That's the biggest truth you wanna align to. And any relationship, what's what makes a good relationship? I think I've asked this question before. What's the one thing all good relationships have in common? Do you remember? 

Anne: No, not off the top of my head. Let me see if I can get past the panic of you put on the spot on the 

Helen: podcast.

Anne: Yeah, even though it's recorded and I can edit out my massive amount of time, it'll take me to answer this. Um, what may I have, you actually told me this before. Um, [00:17:00] what makes relationship? Maybe not, I bet I have relationship, 

Helen: but whether it's business, romantic friendship, parent, child, child, parents, school, any, any relationship.

Anne: I mean, I would say. Clear communication of, uh, the expectation or the goal? The goal. I don't know if you have the same 

Helen: end in mind, you can figure everything else out. 

Anne: Right. I guess you did say that, but if you 

Helen: have a business partner and they have different ideas of what good businesses won't work out Well, you know, my husband and I both had the end in mind of growing old together.

Helen: And being good to each other. Right? And there's some ways, I gotta tell you, he seems way more evolved than me, than other ways I'm playing. I've literally lived more evolution than he has in my opinion. So, you know, there's not a right and wrong answer to any relationship yet. I can tell you it's a lot more joyous and a lot more productive and a lot [00:18:00] easier if you clearly have the same targets.

Anne: Do you sometimes feel, and I don't know the whole, your whole story obviously, but do you ever feel like, 'cause you've talked about before you started out pretty angry, um, you went through more Evo, you're going through and will go through more evolution because where you started was so vastly different from.

Anne: From like a moderate, a place of moderation. I don't know. I feel like yeah, there was no moderation. Yeah, like cadence, very, in a lot of ways, not every way, just more middle of the road. And I, I didn't start with a. A solid grasp on things, so there's more for me to evolve. 

Helen: I, I don't think I heard your question in there.

Helen: I got distracted laughing. 

Anne: Do you feel like, because you [00:19:00] started out in anger, do you feel like that's maybe why there's more like room or need for evolution? 

Helen: That, and also my husband's just. I don't know. He's just easier, more comfortable in his body. He's comfortable with life. I was just angry and frustrated and I was, was not comfortable in my body until just recently and being here on this planet and I was angry at God.

Helen: I was angry at. A lot of things and he's never had that. He's like, so chill. So, and that used to annoy me too. And, um, he's not really judgemental. I've never heard him really criticize or bad mouth anybody. I think the worst thing I ever heard him say was, you know, I don't really care for that person and my jaw fell open.

Helen: Whereas I've been the big ego, the drama, the intensity, the high [00:20:00] lows and the high highs and the low lows and all that in between. And I always think it's funny. I always think, wow, is it not like he's been married to three different women? Mm-hmm. The angry woman, the searcher and seeker, and then now the calm, peaceful one.

Helen: Yet. I guess the flip is true too because I, I was consistently wanting to be kind to others and treat animals. Life, community, each other's families, you know, respectful. And I, I've always had a good heart and he could always see that I just had more trouble using my mind as a tool so it could grow safely.

Helen: Absolutely. Oh, we love a good king. Yes, we do. We sure do. That's an Allison Armstrong reference. You might. Yeah. It's 

Anne: Allison Armstrong. Thank you. Thank you. Okay. Do you have a question for Jasmine on this one? Yes, Jasmine, I would just 

Helen: encourage you to really. You know, you might have to ask some good [00:21:00] questions, and then you might have to sit and be with the, the answers and the questions, you know, what does your romantic partner want in a relationship?

Helen: What does he see as a, as a good relationship, a strong relationship, a long-term relationship, and what do you see? And for some people it's that they have to be my religion or my spiritual journey. And for some people it's live and let live and let's just meet on these other points so nobody can decide that for you.

Helen: And yet you don't wanna make any decisions till you've thoroughly explored and understood. Like Ann is so generous in sharing her own experiences. Sometimes words are not agreed upon, and we don't know that till we dive in deep. And we keep asking so we can really, really see what the other person is conveying.

Helen: And when I say see, I mean not just with human eyesight, but perceive, feel, understand what somebody else is experiencing or what [00:22:00] it is they truly, deeply desire. And you just need clarity on what you truly, deeply desire. And then I will just being prompted to share with you the one true rule. That I heard for spiritual law of breaking up, whether it's heartbreaking to separate from a parent to cut them off emotionally, mentally, and, and physically.

Helen: Sometimes that's necessary or, or sibling or, or um, or a marriage. The one spiritual rule is if you can no longer evolve or grow in that relationship, it's time to leave. So what does that mean? If you're married to somebody and the drama's just too high all the time and you can never, ever do your own spiritual growth because you're constantly reactive to the pattern, it, it might be time to consider leaving or taking a break.

Helen: Um, or if somebody's physically abusive or emotionally [00:23:00] abusive, there's never a reason to stay in that. It's just, it's not okay to say that's okay. Ever. And then if you're gonna ever go through a breakup process again with a business partner, with a romantic partner, you wanna really look at how can, who do I wanna be in the breakup?

Helen: How do I wanna show up? Why do I wanna show up that way? What skills, what information, what support do I need to do this at a higher frequency of truth and not in pain and woundedness. Because how you show up in a, and even a job ending that you weren't expecting to end. You know, say tech replaces you and you're downsized, or, or a new boss comes in and you're just flat out fired for no reason, or the economy changes, whatever, even that you wanna do a careful what, why, how, how, who do I wanna be in this shocking breakup of my career or my identity that I was accustomed to, and why do I want that?

Helen: And how am I [00:24:00] gonna align to that and how will I know I'm successful in closure? 

Anne: Actually, when I got that question, I had what you said pop in and then I forgot to bring it up about the, 'cause I've heard you say talk about, um, if you can't grow anymore then it might be time to consider ending the relationship.

Anne: Yeah. So I'm glad you brought that up at the end 'cause that's a big one. 

Helen: Yeah. And you know, I'm lucky my. I think my husband and I had a sole agreement for this lifetime. I mean, he just. Totally respects that I meditate for hours a day or study for hours or, and he's not into what I'm into. He doesn't speak the languages.

Helen: I speak exactly about spirituality, but he's helped video, he's helped, uh, big events. He was there setting up the retreat and hauling the stuff off after. So it's not like he's not supportive of my work. It's just not his personal spiritual journey. It makes it even better. Yeah. And Jasmine, good luck to [00:25:00] you.

Helen: I hope that you have great clarity and ease in whatever the next leg of your spiritual growth is. 

Anne: Yes. Good luck Jasmine. Thank you for sending in your question. We appreciate you. Alright, Helen, I'll see you next time. Sounds good. 

I 

Helen: just wanna say I just love this. Thank you for setting it up and thank you everybody.

Helen: Please keep those questions coming so that Ann and I can continue with the podcast. Thank you so much. 

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Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay grounded.