Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in.

Helen: Well, hi Helen. Hey. What's the time change? [00:01:00] The time difference from here in Australia? 

Anne: I don't know. It's like 

Helen: UK is six hours. 'cause I have a cousin I work with in the uk. 

Anne: It's 'cause you have to add a day if you're, I don't have any idea. Let me look at my clock. Let me tell you. I just, I used to have to calculate it and now it's available for me, so I've gotten dumb.

Anne: Um, but on my, so 2 55 Utah time, PM mm-hmm. Um, in Melbourne, yeah. On Sunday. On Sunday, um, in Melbourne, it's. Monday at 6:55 AM so it's tomorrow at 6:55 AM Wow. So it's fun to get to ask people how tomorrow is, I like to get my forecast on if I should just stay in the house or not

Helen: talk about time [00:02:00] hopping. 

Anne: Yeah. That, uh, the plane ride and just, just hopping off the plane. You're in a different time. I mean, I was gonna say time zone, but that's obvious. Just a totally different universe, it feels like. Yeah, that's, that is wild time travel fabric of the universe. This is what I'm saying.

Anne: It folds one day. I'll understand it. All right. How are you doing this week? Kellen? 

Helen: Doing great. 

Anne: Good. 

Helen: Loving, loving being me, which is such a nice thing to say, 

Anne: isn't it? 

Helen: Yeah. You know, I just turned 63 recently and it's, it's pretty good. I'm liking it. Liking it a lot, which is nice because you know, at different times of your life it, I mean, I remember when I thought 63 was ancient and old and life's over.

Helen: Right? And then I remember thinking, huh, how will I even, I'm that age and then now you're a spring chicken looking feel pretty dang good. Yeah. Yeah. It's a good time to be alive on our [00:03:00] planet. 

Anne: It 

Helen: is, in my opinion. I. 

Anne: Never been a better time to be a woman. That's for sure feels like 

Helen: right. And even though there's a lot of crazy going on right now, a lot of upheaval.

Helen: Mm-hmm. Um, you know, I have a stability built in, which I really enjoy and I love this podcast with you, that we can share some wisdom. It's always my intent that it helps other people get to that stability in that nice, sweet spot sooner. And faster than I did. Yes. That's always my intention. I 

Anne: know you walked so we could run.

Anne: So thank you for walking 

Helen: or in your, your, um, experience. You can time hop. 

Anne: Yeah, I can. Okay. Well, anything, any announcements coming up that we need to bring? Nope. Okay. 

Helen: So we're ready for your 

Anne: cosmic nudge. Ooh. Okay. This one's fun. I, um, last night my friend and I. I'll just say his name and then I'll ask for his permission.

Anne: But my friend Brian and I had organized to go dancing and [00:04:00] so we were scootering on the little, little scoters to get to the, to the club and he deci he decided to, that he was gonna try and do the splits while he was riding the scooter. And I was riding behind him. I was like, please stop. And he fell off his scooter and he hurt his.

Anne: Nate, he scraped up his knee and ripped his, the knee of his pants and he was hurting and he got back on the scooter. I was like, Brian, we can just go home. This is crazy. Let's just go back. You're obviously pain. We go and he's trying to stick it out and eventually he's like, no, we just need, I, I can't do this.

Anne: Like, okay. And he's really beating himself up about it and. I just kept having this feeling of he's being so hard on himself. Yes, he did something that he thought was gonna be really fun and cool, and it didn't turn out the way he wanted it, and [00:05:00] then he got hurt and he is feeling embarrassed. And I just relate so much to this because I do stuff like that all the time and I have done stuff like that.

Anne: Maybe not as much anymore 'cause I have more responsibility than I used to. But I just, I kept, he kept apologizing and I just kept thinking it's, I am not mad. At all. I have no bitter feelings about, oh, this fun night got ruined. I have no, that's not even crossing my mind. I'm concerned for him and I just, I wanna make the most of what of our night and make sure we're having the most fun time.

Anne: And he just kept apologizing and I, and kept saying, I'm sorry I ruined our night. Like this was supposed to be really fun. And I kept feeling like almost offended. Like, this has been such [00:06:00] a fun night. Please stop telling me that it's not fun. And also. You didn't ruin it. It just looks different and it stuck with me that I'm standing here giving my friend Grace when he's feeling silly, and I get to do that for myself as well.

Anne: I get to remind myself that I didn't ruin it. It just looks different, and I truly believe that. However. It's supposed to happen or whatever needs to happen will happen, and I don't have to worry about the details. The goal was to have fun. Do I wish he had not gotten hurt? Yes, but nothing was ruined. It just looked different than we thought it would, and I That's one of those things.

Anne: That is gonna stick with me and I'll get, I'll get to keep this little quote that popped into my head. The, you didn't ruin it. It just looks different. And that will come back to me throughout my life. I already know it. [00:07:00] 

Helen: Yeah. Great quote. I wonder if it's that he kept repeating, repeating, repeating, because he ruined his night because he had never planned for a night, including Payne.

Helen: Yeah. Right. I love though that you were able to get him to pop out of that loop and hear you, because when I'm in a goofy mind loop, I really appreciate when people can take a moment to connect and pop me out of it into a broader, expansive view. 

Anne: I told him he could apologize to me two more times and then that 

Helen: was it.

Helen: And that was it. Here's your limit and then you're cut off. Yeah. I can't even fathom trying to do a split on a scooter in't a scooter where you're standing. 

Anne: Yes. He was not thinking clearly. 

Helen: A gym is split where they just throw one leg up by their shoulder. 

Anne: Yeah. I don't know. I, he was already, 

Helen: oh, okay. Wow.

Helen: Yeah. Hmm. I'll take it. 

Anne: You know, and then we Ubered home. I love 

Helen: that though. You, [00:08:00] you gave a realistic countdown on how many more apologies. And you, that's a great quote. Didn't ruin anything. It just looks different now. 

Anne: Yeah. And I like, that's not to say like you're not in pain, that's to say. You can stop thinking about how this affects me because I'm not worried about me at all in this.

Helen: Yeah. And I would love that quote for anything, even when I am in pain. Mm-hmm. Doesn't mean it's ruined my life or the experience. It just means it includes this now. Right. Or fear. 

Anne: Yeah. It has such broad application to my own life and situation, and I get to have that now 'cause that experience. Oh. Thanks, Bri, 

Helen: and please don't do any more stunts on, uh, scooters.

Helen: On scooters. Thank you. Nope. Thank you for service. Save it for the dance floor. That doesn't move. Yes. 

Anne: Oh my gosh.

Anne: Oh, crazy times. [00:09:00] All right, 

Helen: so what question do we 

Anne: have today? Yeah, our question today comes from Andrea. Andrea asked. Or how can I feel supported when I feel like I'm the one giving all the time? 

Helen: Ooh, this makes me think of, we recently did a show with, um, moms of, of children, right? Mm-hmm. Or newborns.

Helen: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Um, also, you know, many of us taking care of elders, right? And. Anybody who's a caregiver of any kind, children, uh, in work, if you're a project leader, you know, running a family, running a business, it can, it can really feel hard to receive and be feel supported. And so I would say what I personally, and, and to it is challenging through my own experiences is that those of us who are really good at giving.

Helen: We have a lot of get up and go. We have the heart of [00:10:00] service. One of our biggest challenges is learning how to receive. So you have to really look, and Andre, you'd have to ask yourself, is there anywhere where you're not receiving? Well, now for me it was so ridiculous, my inability to receive support and love and help that.

Helen: I noticed that even compliments I couldn't receive. Like if you said, oh, Helen, I love that shirt or dress or shoes you're wearing. I'd say, oh, I got it on sale. I would diminish the compliment. Mm-hmm. Or, oh, I've had this a long time. It's like I just couldn't say, oh, thank you. I like it too. Right. Which obviously I liked it or I wouldn't be wearing it.

Helen: So that's one example of somebody really. Not capable of receiving. And when we keep deflecting, we keep saying, no thank you in our energy or our body language. It does, it ends up where we feel very unsupported. And I [00:11:00] think for many of us who are service oriented, we come in wanting to be, you know, nurses, doctors, therapists, coaches, moms.

Helen: Um, we want to be in service to others. We just have a calling for it. I think it's so important for us to practice receiving. And have you ever given a compliment to somebody and they brush it off? And then have you ever given a compliment to somebody and they just open their arms and their heart and say, yes, thank you for that.

Helen: There's a big difference, right? So when we can receive at the higher vibrational level of joy and delight, we expand goodness. That's a real service too. Receiving well is a real service to, and yet most of us haven't been taught that. We've been taught to just focus on those in need, not really think about ourselves.

Helen: That can create the setup of feeling unsupported so that you could [00:12:00] rethink it and develop new skills. So the biggest tangible advice I would give for feeling supported is go ask somebody to do something for you. Delegate, ask for help, and then be thankful for it without. Apologizing, making excuses being hyper uncomfortable.

Helen: And if you have trouble asking somebody to do something for you, you'll realize that that's what's created this imbalance. Mm. And so as somebody who loves giving, totally love it. I, I truly have a heart of service. Um, for me, it's delightful to provide service, food help, um, coaching, healing work, energy work, um, compliments.

Helen: I love giving. Totally love it. And what I realized is I would tap out on my capacity to give if I didn't learn and develop the skill of receiving. And so you can [00:13:00] reach a level of giving and then you have to up your capacity to receive again. And then you're giving can go bigger, and then you have to receive more, and then you can go even bigger.

Helen: So I'll use our podcast as an example, as an analogy. So when Anne. Called and had this idea and she was telling me about it, and I'm like, what? I just answer questions, which I love to do. I love to give knowledge, right? Mm-hmm. Share experience, share wisdom, share solutions, ideas that can be supportive. I love giving in that way too.

Helen: And Anne was, you know, well, I'll do all the backend i'll, you know. Record it. I'll send you the microphone. I'll set up the system. I'll load it. I'll, I'll research it. I'll do it. Had Ann asked me would that set up, I. 10 years ago, I would've been horribly uncomfortable. I would've said, this is not fair. This is not balanced.

Helen: I can't, you can't do that much. I would be like your friend. I would be [00:14:00] apologizing, apologizing, apologizing, right? Whereas today I'm like, oh, I just feel so lucky and I'm able to go past that inability to receive, to see that between Anne's Joy, the backend that she does, which I wouldn't even. Be have fun learning and what we create, the synergy we create together from two different strengths and two different interests.

Helen: That's a really beautiful partnership and delegation, and I get to trust Ian to tell me if it doesn't work for her, doesn't fit into her schedule or lifestyle anymore. Without taking any of that personally and. She gets to tell me if it's too much or enough or she needs, she wants something different.

Helen: And that's a beautiful example of me evolving to receive so that I can give more. 

Anne: I had two thoughts pop up. I mean, it's just a, a testament to, [00:15:00] I feel like I'm getting the good deal here. So it really is just a great balance for us. So glad we could do that. And, uh. And you, you were talking about compliments and I just, I thought about how I've had this experience being the one, giving the compliment and also the one receiving a compliment.

Anne: The time that pops into my head, I got my nails done and I was walking into work and I, the colors looked different than I. Than they did in the salon, in the natural lighting. And I had, I had like different, I had gotten three different colors and I walked into the elevator at work and a girl. I got in with me and she goes, oh my goodness, I love your nails.

Anne: Those are so, such cute colors. And I said, really? They look like Buzz Lightyear And I, and as soon as I said it, I was like, that's so embarrassing that I would like, [00:16:00] they're my nails. She was telling me that she liked it. I'm like, you're yucky for liking. This, like that does not feel good for her and does not feel good for me.

Anne: Knowing that I was like, like that's pretty rude to someone who lemme insult 

Helen: your taste in the elevator. 

Anne: Like even if she wasn't being sincere, which she was, 'cause why would you just say something like that just. I don't, uh, it wouldn't make sense. She was saying it because she liked it, and yeah. And then just to turn it back on her, I just, I just, I don't know why I feel like I need to do that sometimes and just accepting the compliment and going, that's so nice.

Anne: Thank you. Me too. Or I don't have to tell them, like you were saying, where I got it or why they should like it less because. It was cheaper than they probably works. Yes. Isn. It's funny that we're 

Helen: so [00:17:00] uncom uncomfortable receiving. Yeah. As something as little as words. And then I found as, you know, even on this journey of spiritual growth for me, you know, I found that I did struggle with delegation and asking for help and I don't, I don't know why.

Helen: Once I noticed it, it was like, okay, what's the solution? How do I focus on. Um, delegating. I remember once and my boys were, I don't know, probably high school and junior high, and my husband, and they're here and we're leaving to go somewhere, and they're standing there waiting on me, which was a normal occurrence back then.

Helen: And I'm like, okay, okay, I am coming. Did the dogs get fed, did the blah, blah, blah. Did the blah, blah, blah, the blah, blah, blah, get done. And they're just looking at me. I'm like, oh my gosh. I have trained these people to be. You know, unproductive and not to understand how to support us all getting out the door at the same time.

Helen: And that's on me, and that's what was a wake up call like, I need to allow a lot more delegation [00:18:00] and partnership in this family as they get older. Totally. You know, and. And age appropriately. It's always like this. Yeah. I had to grow up appropriately with them. Right. And now it's fascinating. My youngest son, you know, will have get togethers and he cooks so much.

Helen: It's so delightful. I love that. Like to see the roles changing and, and um, there's been times in my life when I've been in, in compromised physically with pain and just asking for help. And what I've found over my years of learning to receive with, with joy and happiness, it's the more ease I have in receiving and asking for help.

Helen: The less there is a neediness, it's just more of abundance. Mm-hmm. And why wouldn't I let people help me when I find so much joy in helping others? Why would I limit the joy they can have supporting or helping me? Isn't that interesting that we find [00:19:00] joy in being of service unless you're overwhelmed and feel unsupported, right?

Helen: That's the extreme. Yeah. Out of balance. But we do like to help. And so why would we tell somebody, no, no, I don't want you to feel good about helping me. Isn't that weird? And yet we do it. I think. Or I have done it for sure. Yeah, 

Anne: definitely. I all the time, how many times have 

Helen: people said, oh, let me get that for you.

Helen: And we say, oh no, thanks, I got it. Yeah. 

Anne: I try. I try really hard to let people do things. It's a conscious choice. It and it, I struggle with it. I have to consciously choose to go, okay, yes, you can carry my suitcase down the stairs, Brian.

Anne: It, it totally is. Um, and I, I think from this conversation I'm, one of the things I'm gonna take is I'm gonna use compliments, receiving compliments as a way [00:20:00] to remind or gauge how open I am to receiving, and I'm going to use it as a trigger to. Tripped me out of blocking myself. So someone gives me a compliment and I, that's gonna trigger me to remember to open myself up and be in the energy of receiving and being thankful that I receive instead of feeling guilty for receiving, because that's a block.

Helen: Yeah. Maybe that is it. And so Andrea, I would, you know, ask you to look, where have you asked for help? What's your normal response to asking and receiving support? Mm-hmm. And encourage you to know that you haven't done anything wrong. You're feeling unsupported when you're giving. Giving. Giving is just the energy escalating so that it would invite you to the next evolutionary step of you giving and receiving in more balance.

Anne: Yep. We [00:21:00] get to tackle the same issues at different levels, like you say. So 

Helen: it's always about Can you expand to that next level of more goodness? 

Anne: Yeah. Beautiful. Okay. We ready to wrap this one up? 

Helen: Yes, we 

Anne: are. Okay, perfect. Thank you so 

Helen: much, listeners. Thank you, Anne. I appreciate it. It's such a joyous contribution and it is a giving and receiving, right?

Helen: It's so much fun. I love it. I'm so happy to be here. So. 

Anne: Thanks again, Helen. You're welcome. Thank you. Thank you. Well, until next week, we'll see you next week. Okay. Bye, Helen. Ciao. That's all for today. We'll be back next Thursday with our next episode. You can subscribe if you'd like to get new episodes when they drop.

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Anne: For information on upcoming events and consults with Helen, please visit Helen Rays. Dot com. That's H-E-L-E-N-R-A-C z.com. 

Helen: We invite you to re-listen. Join us on our next episode, send us questions because it is our intent to support you at this tumultuous time on Earth into the best experience of you.

Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay [00:23:00] grounded.