Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in. Hi, Helen. How are you doing this week? 

I'm doing great. How are you? I'm, I'm very, uh, [00:01:00] excited to hear our cosmic nudge this week, and yet before you tell us that, how have you been? Everything good? 

Anne: Yes, I'm feeling great. I, uh. We've been getting so much sun. We've been gardening, just riding bikes, been outside so much.

Anne: It's been, I love this time of year. I'm really enjoying it. How's your, how's your butterfly garden going? Oh my 

gosh. My husband and I, Greg and I were looking at the butter, a couple butterflies today. It's not really their season, but they've kind of been all year and so many flowers. Like in our interpretation of it, they're probably happy when they hit our yard and see all the offerings.

And I can't wait to see the Hummers too. This year. The flowers are just coming up everywhere. I saw a beautiful quote that the flowers on earth are like the stars in the sky. I paraphrased, I probably butchered it, but that was the thought of it. 

Anne: Oh, I love that idea. Like the stars look down and they [00:02:00] see the flowers.

Right. Uh, and when you see a big field of flowers, it is like stars in the sky, isn't it? 

Anne: Totally. Oh, I've never thought about it like that. I love that. Seasonal stars, 

and we love that the monarchs were struggling last year, and so we have excessive amounts of milkweed and that we just got to participate in supporting Mother Earth a little bit in that.

I love that because she gives so much to me. 

Anne: What butterflies are you seeing? Mostly 

right now, just the monarchs, but I have a lot of parsley out for the swallow tails too. 

Anne: Oh, cool. 

And sometimes we'll get the literaries. Um, we've already had a few moths. 

Anne: Yeah. Those ones never fail. 

Right. And we're like, oh.

Especially when they get in the house and wake you up at night. That's never fun to me. 

Anne: No. No, 

no, 

Anne: not 

to me. So, you know, it's all happening out there. It's always fascinating to me that from the teeniest tiniest seed, a big plant with [00:03:00] numerous flowers can grow. 

Anne: I mean, it's so simple and it still blows my mind every time.

Anne: Teeny tiny, and then all of a sudden, this big thing. I mean, same with, same with people, babies, it's, it's incomprehensible how it starts out from almost nothing. But everything is contained in the. In that one tiny speck. Pretty amazing. Yeah, it's 

amazing. 

Anne: Um, okay, so 

Cosmic Nudge, what do you have for us this week?

Anne: Yeah, so we kind of shuffled around to, uh, work in our meditation episode, which is great. And this one's pretty simple. And just a thought that popped up for me during the retreat, which was too. Stop brushing myself off before others can

Anne: like stop. Uh, I, I gotta figure out how to, what's the positive side [00:04:00] of this? But like, I want to not negate how I'm feeling before someone else can. I want to be open and stay open instead of almost rejecting myself before other people can. I think it's part of. I dunno, part of growing up and actually allowing myself to be seen, 

well, part of it in, in my perspective of things, part of it is that when we've been trained and try not to make this wrong, it's just a natural state that humanity hasn't quite evolved out of yet when we've been trained to prioritize how other people judge us to keep us safe.

When we've been taught, although it's less for your generation than like my generation or before, it's, you know, we've been taught there's a certain way to look, a certain way to have manners, a certain way to dress for certain events. [00:05:00] Uh, and, and that's doesn't seem as strong anymore. And yet still the human consciousness is.

Trying to perceive what are others gonna think? How are they gonna think? This could go backwards on me. I could say this and be innocent, and they could turn it around and attack me. Or I could just say something from my heart and sound really stupid. Right? And yet, what's really happening is this fear of judgment from others is our fear of how we judge ourselves.

And that's what we're wanting to let go of. And it's like, do I sound stupid sometimes? Yeah. And sometimes I sound really wise too. And I've noticed in the last few retreats, workshops, classes I've had like big hoopers and I thought, well this is interesting 'cause I'm not embarrassed or mortified or triggered.

It must be a new teaching for us. Could we get comfortable with being misinterpreted? Could we get comfortable with saying something we didn't [00:06:00] really actually mean to say? Like, what was that came outta my mouth. I used to believe that way, but I don't anymore. Could we get comfortable in saying, oh, wait a minute, could I respeak that?

Could I say it one more time differently? Could we get comfortable saying, yeah, I don't know why I did that. Could we be more loving, forgiving, kinder, more curious about our. Uh, own selves and how we show up. So the flip side of that is when you're coming from this place of insecurity, fear, feeling unsafe, feeling like you, it could all go cata wonks on you any minute.

Uh, you don't speak in a vibrational alignment to be received well. When you speak in confidence, like think of at work, something that you know that you do well. When you speak it with authority, people hear it like it is, right? And that's what we wanna bring [00:07:00] into this ever-changing version of us. And yet, it's tricky 'cause we're starting to evolve very quickly now, so we feel like newbies.

So if you've ever heard somebody who's brand new giving a speech, yeah, you are not really that impressed, you don't buy into the message. But listen to somebody who's passionate about their work and what they've been teaching. They will get you on fire with their belief system. Mm-hmm. Right? So the real trick is spending more time with yourself and then when you are going to speak to a person or a group or friends, you know, have done your what, why, how, how before, like what is it you wanna share?

And then be sure you're in the energy of that. So when I'm teaching, I'm very cohesive and confident. Like these podcasts, you know, we've already set the container in my intention. If I am socializing, I would've done my what, why, how, how [00:08:00] before. And if I'm with a dear friend or close family, oh yeah, that's a whole different version of Helen.

It's usually a little goofy. It's usually a little, wait. I'm not sure what I think of that. It's a little more in the growth stage and the experiential stage, and that's okay. 'cause they're used to seeing many versions of me. Right. So just the way that as a mother. You have one confidence in how you speak, guide, teach, manage the time.

And then with a girlfriend, you know, it's a whole different persona, right? And you will have powerful, uplifting feedback and interactions when you're crystal clear which identity you're expressing from. 

Anne: Yeah. And I love that it's those, all of those different facets are. Part of the whole, it's, it's not inconsistency and we've, we've had I [00:09:00] think probably even a whole episode on this before.

Anne: It's not inconsistency, inauthentic, yeah. It's authentic because it's in line with the target. 

Yeah, and I'll just be honest and share. My hardest trick is, uh, when I'm with family or socializing to remember they didn't ask me to be a coach or a teacher. So find the other personality. 

Anne: Yeah, I think that, um, especially 'cause I think coaching's getting so popular now.

Anne: I have a few friends who have. People in their lives who have started coaching or, or even psychologists, that once people start that training, they start kind of bringing it, trying to bring it to all their relationships. And probably even, I think Caden has this with me, he is like, oh, stop. Leave me alone.

Anne: I did not ask you to, I'm not like even actually my brothers have been [00:10:00] before, said like, stop trying to therapize me. I'm like, oh, what are you talking about? This is who I am now. But yeah, it's, it's separating and finding that, leaving that behind. 'cause that's not what I was asked to bring. 

No. And, and yes, could we fall in love with that?

We get to be all these different roles. Yeah. You know, even how I talk to the dog. And, um, so we have a little yappy dog next door, and I'm teaching our big guy. That's fascinating. This little creature is not afraid of you through the fence, but you can't, you know, bark loud for long and it'll be like, Hey, leave it.

And then he doesn't listen. So then my voice gets firmer and stronger, and then the minute he stops as a pet. Parent, it's switching to good boy listening. Come on, let's get a love. Let's get a cuddle. Let's get a treat. What a good boy listening to me. And you know, that took me a long [00:11:00] time to come out of the corrective into the compliment, and that works really well with dogs.

I don't think, maybe my husband would appreciate that.

Anne: Yeah, you're friendly, right?

Anne: Uh, alright, we ready for our listener question. The week? Absolutely. Marissa's question is, what does it actually mean to be in alignment? People say that a lot, but I don't really get what it feels like or how to know when I'm not. 

So alignment is a broad term. And so the, the other piece of that that's missing is in alignment to what?

So spiritually, I'm very aligned after many years, I'm crystal clear what my end in mind, my target is. Uh, it's to embody more [00:12:00] real timeless love. So to be aligned to that spiritual target, it means that my thoughts, words, action, I. Interpretations and perspectives all lead me closer to that. Does it mean I'm perfect at it?

No. But am I aligned to it? Yes, because I always go back to that same target. I use that target to tell me how to keep evolving in the direction that'll give me what I want with my family. You know, some, the mother of adult sons. Which, that was a trip, right? Like all of a sudden they're adults. I'm like, how do I do this?

What's my mission statement? And after suffering a long time with what is it, I decided that my mission statement as a mother of adults is just to enjoy them. So I'm aligned to that when I don't make their cultural differences. You know, there are different generation. They're very. Last minute. They don't [00:13:00] plan things real far in advance like my husband and I grew up doing.

They're easier, they live easy. They, they're much more comfortable being themselves than what I grew up with. And so how can I enjoy that? Well, it means I'm never reprimanding or correcting or offering coaching that wasn't asked for that. I'm more playful and and more attentive in listening when they have time to communicate with me and that I don't guilt them for not communicating more often.

Do you see how I can find all the things that alignment to enjoying them is not, which leads me to practice alignment to enjoying them. That is. And that helps me with my what, why, how, how's, um, being aligned. Some people are aligned to very fit bodies. I, I haven't mastered that one. And that means that they are very consistent in choosing good food choices.

More often than not, choosing physical movement, strength building, or agility, [00:14:00] something, you know, you can see somebody use a line to that 'cause their body reflects it. So alignment means. That you're not perfect at it, but you're most consistently having thoughts, words, actions, and feelings in the direction of a stated goal or target.

Anne: So she asked, she, well, she said, I don't really get what it feels like. So what does it feel like when you know that you are in alignment? 

Well, you feel very focused, confident, congruent. And the opposite of that would be uncertain, a little bit scattered, spacey, uh, diffused. And so to get in alignment, you'd first have to define your end in mind or your target and what arena of your life it is in.

And of course, I would say do a what, why, how, how, and get really clear and then have a system of checking is. [00:15:00] You know, a way of catching yourself midday every few hours. Hey, is this an alignment to what I really want? Right? If it's a project at work, hey, have you organized it in a way that's gonna serve you?

Are you, are you doing first things first? Are you, you know, aiming for the same target as somebody else's? This is where I always say, if you want a really good experience with somebody else. Um, in a project, in a relationship, in a business as neighbors, you all need the same end in mind. Mm-hmm. You know, if I have neighbors that don't care how their yard looks, we would get on their nerves and they'd get on our nerves because we have different agendas.

And so alignment is wonderful when it's just for you personally, and it's even more wonderful. And Cooper when it's cooperative and productive with others. So always go to analogies that you know of, um, already experiencing. [00:16:00] If you have a job where you're given the end in mind, here's what we expect for your paycheck.

You can tell if you're in alignment with it. Do you show up on time? Do you do what's asked of you? Do you get good reviews when they review you in a marriage, if you're both husband and wife, say, well, well, you want a happy marriage? Well. Then you're not in alignment. If you're fighting and arguing, you are in alignment.

If you're seeking solutions and new information and help and forgiveness and kindness, uh, your alignment to be a mom that keeps your children having fun and being safe at the same time. You know when you're out of alignment with that, right? 

Anne: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. How do 

you know? 

Anne: Well. It's nine o'clock in the morning.

Anne: Just kidding. Um, um, I mean, if I am not being, if I can tell I'm not present or they're being wild and crazy, I know that that's not [00:17:00] alignment with, with being safe, you know, wild and crazy has a time and a space, but like if we're trying to cross a parking lot and they're not listening and they're, yeah.

Anne: So it's pretty obvious. Yeah. So that's. 

So that means that you pick that target and then you really put time into figuring out what would that look like in different situations and how do I think, speak, feel, and act on alignment with that. So now you notice when you're out of alignment. Mm-hmm. So that's what I would say is you do the front end of the work to get crystal clear and then you're, you will know 'cause you won't feel good when you're out of alignment.

It just doesn't feel good. 

Anne: That's true. 

Right? Mm-hmm. And think of this, you know, spiritual laws or principles are very self-evident. What's it like to be a family member of, say, an in-law or a sibling or a spouse or or a child where you have different ends in [00:18:00] minds, but they won't tell you what theirs is?

Doesn't feel good because you can't feel successful consistently. And consistently doesn't mean you're perfect. Sometimes you have to apologize. Whoops, that, uh, that didn't go the way I meant, let me realign to being kind and loving, or, or, you know, pay attention. It just means that you know what you're aiming for so you can get back in alignment.

So think of an airplane flying through the sky with the gravitational pole, the planetary poles, the. Wind currents, the temperature pressures, it's always off course, but there's coordinates to bring it back on course over and over and over. That's alignment with its destination. It doesn't mean it's perfect on the way there, it just knows how to keep resetting to what's desired.

Does that help? 

Anne: Yeah, that's such a good analogy. I think that I do just. I have this picture in my head that, yeah, you set the destination and you're [00:19:00] just continuously heading there, but it's the recalibration. The recalibration that makes the journey not, not, yes, because like the 

plane or you know, the plane, just like I spoke, there's a lot of pulls and tugs and changes for it.

And in business there's. New tech, new economy markets, new influences, marketing perception in families. Everybody's on different hormonal balances, uh, different growth stages and relationship personalities and desires are changing. So it's alignment means you're not just good at defining a target. You're really good at pivoting back and towards that direction.

Anne: Well, do you have a question for Marissa? 

Yes, Marissa, I would ask you to pick something you wanna be in alignment with in one arena of your life and do a what, why, how, how sheet on it. Like really write it out and really practice so that [00:20:00] you can define for yourself how it feels to be in awareness, which alignment means you're very aware of what you want and what you're choosing to have it.

Anne: Awesome. And we have the, the conscious co-creation for the holidays workshop is still up on the episode feed. So if you want a refresher on the what, why, how, how, um, or an in depth look into it there, they're still there. So you can look at that and if anyone ever needs a new copy of the What, why, how, how, just send us an email.

Anne: At metaphysical Street smarts@gmail.com and uh, I can get that for you. 

Awesome. Thank you Marissa, so much for sending a question in. We appreciate it. 

Anne: Yes, thank you. And thank you Helen for being here. It's always lovely. 

So fun. 

Anne: So fun, love catching up with you. So we'll see you next week [00:21:00] and we'll go again 

until then.

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Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay [00:23:00] grounded.