Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in

Anne: 38. Okay, well, hi Helen. [00:01:00] Hello. How are you today? I'm doing well. Hanging in there? 

Helen: Yeah. How are you doing today? Very good. Always surprised at the heat when I walk outside. I don't know why it still surprises me and Tino all these years. I still laugh out loud when my glasses fog and then I laugh at myself that I still find that funny.

Helen: It's just 

Anne: a 

Helen: odd thing. 

Anne: Well, yeah. 'cause when you walk outside just 'cause of the humidity in Texas, it just, your glasses fog up man. I, I dunno what I would prefer the dry heat or the hot or the wet heat. We feel like the wet heat most of the time. 

Helen: I'm very grateful for air conditioning. 

Anne: Yes. And that's why it surprises you 'cause you've got really good air conditioning and then it's just a wall as soon as you walk out a heat and, and I'm like, 

Helen: how does this surprise you Every time?

Anne: Like, oh, forgot. [00:02:00] Yeah, that's, uh, that's a big one. We're spending lots of time in the water this time of year, so. So much 

Helen: fun with two little peoples in the water, isn't it? 

Anne: Yeah. The one likes the cold water. The other one is, uh. He spends most of his time on the sand, but he will get really good at sandcastles.

Anne: So I guess it works out for everyone. Oh, I love it. So what's our cosmic nut for today? I have questions. I am trying to find a, find a good, I don't know, technique. Point of attack on this. So I am having a hard time showing interest and prioritizing slowing down and listening. Just, you know, when, when kids get to a certain age, I think it's not just a particular child.

Anne: I think a lot of children go through it. It's, it's [00:03:00] a, it's a growth section. It's a development milestone. Um. Sometimes they get to the point where they just talk nonstop. Mm-hmm. And it's about, it's not, it's, it's just the talking at versus actually conversing. And I'm having a really hard time staying present in it and figuring out an appropriate way to the response.

Anne: That would help him feel, help that person feel heard and appreciated and loved without losing my mind. So what 

Helen: works with these new children on Earth is if he's in this pattern for a little while and then he'll come out of it, and then I'll probably go back into it again a few more times while he lives with you.

Helen: Um, if you can get to eye level. So roughly your heart is aiming at him and [00:04:00] your eyes are looking into his eyes without him looking up at you and put your hands on his shoulders and say, I just, whatever your word is, adore, enjoy, like, love, you know, whatever you can say with true energetic feeling and.

Helen: And I'm also busy doing mom things and things that I choose. So could you tell me when I need to listen to the point you're making and then just wait, and then he'll be thinking it and, and when you do it another time, you could say, I really want you to feel. Heard and validated, and yet it's very hard to discern your point when you're in this rambly stage.

Helen: What do you think I should do? Mm-hmm. And let him choose. And when you do this connection, heart to heart, eye to eye, touching the shoulders, it brings him back in [00:05:00] his body and it brings him back into a relationship moment. And so you might need to do this like just. Just consider that you might have to do this 10 times to really see the result.

Helen: Well, you'll actually see a result before 10 times, but say 10 times so you don't get impatient with it. Yeah, like say, I'm gonna try this 10 times and see what works and, and say, you know, offer solutions. If he can't think them up, he probably will think them up though. And then you might need to tweak 'em because they're so excessive in their ideas.

Helen: But you could say, Hey, gimme a code word, or touch me when you want me to listen to the important part. 

Anne: And what if it's all important, 

Helen: then say, okay, hang onto my shirt, talk away while I'm doing dishes, while I'm doing this or doing that. And it's not like he's gonna quiz you on it. 'cause it doesn't really all make sense to him either.

Helen: So this is where you learn it's not about the words, the languaging of the words, the, the storyline. It's not about that [00:06:00] because with kids it's just very limited and repetitive. Right? It's just the energy of being. Uh, practicing speaking and being heard, but you don't have to listen with your ears. You can listen with your heart, and they can, they can feel it to some degree.

Helen: Um, I remember one child older than yours though, wanting me always watch me, watch me at soccer practice when I would be working, you know, and I would just say, honey. Watching you at practice, you know, I'm gonna watch you in the game. Like in the game. I won't be distracted, but I can't just watch you at practice.

Helen: If you really want me to, then you need to watch me do housework. And I would just remind him lovingly, not snarly. Okay, would you wanna watch mommy vacuum and mop and do dishes? And I said, that's how I feel about your practice. So the thing to remember is with children, they don't get anything just 'cause you said it once.

Helen: And so can you [00:07:00] lovingly, kindly repeat yourself in whatever would make sense to them till they actually integrate it and understand it. That's why I think parents run a miss is we think, well, I already told them, and yet, how many times do you teach your children to say thank you about a million? And then on the flip side of this, it's always fascinating to me that in, in our culture I've been, what I heard is that, you know.

Helen: The things we teach our children, you have to repeat 'em a gazillion times and yet people will leave money and sex for one big talk. I'm like, how does that work? 

Anne: Totally, totally. So yeah, being consistent, repetitive. I'll have to listen to this again and write down my, my phrases, I think. 'cause I. I wanna make sure he doesn't feel dismissed.

Anne: I guess I'm coming at that from my own kind of [00:08:00] childhood experience of feeling like no one wanted to listen to me. And so, yeah, I'm trying to fi, I guess I'm trying to come at it and like fix my own problem, um, before it happens with him. And so, 

Helen: well, I would maybe reword that. You're trying not to repeat a pattern.

Helen: Yeah. And you really care about how he feels and perceives you as a mother because you care how you perceive yourself as a mother. The most fascinating thing with children is ask them, how can I have you feel listened to and still get all my thi chores done? 

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: What, how can we figure this solution out together?

Helen: Because it's important to me that you be heard, you know, if you're telling them what's important to you. And you're saying it as you're fully present with him, and again, you might have to say it a few times, remind him of what your target is. You will create a most beautiful solution together. Yeah. Okay.

Helen: And sometimes they really cannot quit talking. [00:09:00] I remember a friend's child in the car with me and she just couldn't quit talking at this stage. I'd known her forever. Uh, well in her life it was forever. And I've known her even now as an adult and I said, I'll give you $5 if you can stop talking for 60 seconds.

Helen: And she couldn't do it. 

Anne: That's kind of how like he'll get around adult. It's mostly adults, but even at like our big family dinners, he'll say, everyone listen up. And he'll say like two sentences and then he'll be quiet for a little bit and then he'll stop everyone again and be like, he'll listen to me.

Anne: And then he'll like go and go and go. And, 

Helen: yeah. So this is, there's adults telling him, listen to me, stop what you're doing and listen. And he's just trying it on for size. He's mimicking. Mm-hmm. Okay. So you wanna say, okay, this is great, now we need to take turns. And let him see. There's many people at the table.

Helen: Did everybody get a turn? You know, these are skills you [00:10:00] could, you're, he's asking to learn it from very young age. Have you Yeah. Not ever been captured at a social event or a party where somebody talks nonstop and you'd never get a word in. Uh, yeah, I have. Yeah. Right. All of us. Yeah. Those are the kids that never learned this lesson.

Helen: Let's, with language, we take turns just like in games. Just like it's time to go to bed. It's time to wake up. There's, you take turns for all the different things. 

Anne: Yeah. And he is, he is asking to learn this early. I think it's part of his listening leader training. He is. He is on this leadership path for himself.

Anne: He came in like this and, uh. And so the listening part is what we're, he's got the other part down he thinks. Um, so it's fascinating. It's fascinating. It is. 

Helen: And you could explain to him, mommy, and maybe dad, maybe sibling or maybe aunt, you know, tell him the [00:11:00] people that really wanna listen and then explain to him that not everybody's taken the class he's taking, and not everybody's the leaders and not everybody's good listeners.

Helen: And that is. Reality and how can you feel heard and then he'll tell you what he needs and then you tell him, okay, that's never gonna happen with these people, but I can give you that. Uh, and only for this long. When do you wanna do it? You know? So it's this teaching guiding, and yet you are the one as the adult, as the loving mother that keeps him in fun and safety, giving him the parameters of what is realistic and will work.

Anne: You know, we talked about the little slideshow presentations that my friends and I do. If I could figure out how to work with him on one of those, he would probably love to stand up sometime and give a presentation and present. Yeah. Yeah, he would. So that would be a good way to help him build that. 'cause he really, he is learning so many [00:12:00] skills at a young age that are gonna just help him bloom.

Helen: It's fascinating. Isn't it fun? I don't know if I ever, um, if we, if it ever come, came up, there's a great book. It's by two women. It's called How to Talk to Kids So They Listen and How to Listen, so Kids Talk. It is a magnificent series of books. I highly recommend that one and the Siblings Without Rivalry.

Helen: Oh, 

Anne: I have. I have that book. I totally forgot that I have that book and now that I read more, it's on my bookshelf. Awesome. Yeah, and 

Helen: it's, it's got cartoons. It's not like a deep reading. It's really fabulous. 

Anne: I'll add that to my stack 

Helen: and then please make a note so you update us. 

Anne: Okay, I'll, awesome. Well, thanks for indulging me on that.

Anne: I've got some things to try out. Yeah. I'll update you for sure. Okay, well we've got our listener question from Zoe this week. Fabulous. You ready? I'm ready. Okay. Well, [00:13:00] Zoe's question is, can someone else block or interfere with my manifestations, even unintentionally, like a partner who doesn't believe in this stuff?

Helen: Okay, so here's the big elephant in the room. I don't know how you would say that for podcast language. Um, I am the only vibrational law teacher that I know of that laughs at that whole law of attraction manifestation thing. I did write a book called Logical Law of Attraction. Um, so here's the thing. Are you really, what does manifestation mean most people say?

Helen: So I'm assuming from the way you spoke, that it's your thoughts that are making something come to you. Does that feel okay, Ann, for it sounds like? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's not really you. You can't do that. You're not God, you don't control other people. Timing the economy, the karmic lessons, the evolution of [00:14:00] consciousness.

Helen: You can, however, create yourself to be a vibrational match to something you want. And can other people block it? No, but you can, thinking they do, you can thinking that others need to be on the same page as you. So I'll give you an ex, a personal example. I came from a long line of financial scarcity, and so when I was learning how to change my beliefs, which would change my vibrational alignment to letting money in with joy and ease.

Helen: I realized that I always wanted money to give my family to help others. Well, now that would block my vibrational alignment to it. 'cause then I'm outta my business. And yet, if I desire to be easy and comfortable with money flow and not need it to be about saving, fixing, healing others, then I'm in my business.[00:15:00] 

Helen: And of course, I can give money to whoever I want. But I'm not doing it out of, oh my God, I need this for that. So I'm hoping that gives you some insight without, you know, sounding clear as mud. Um, so everything you desire, we have a loving creator if you choose to believe that everything you desire is actually there for you.

Helen: The thing is you have to be a vibrational match to allow it in that. You won't see it. You'll sabotage it. You'll ignore it if you're not a match. Vibrationally, what do I mean by vibrationally? Well thought and feeling together is a belief, and it creates a resonance. So think of a child. If you've ever seen a young child and say they're angry, they're so angry.

Helen: And if you said, here, let me buy you an ice cream cone. You'll feel better. Are they gonna take it and enjoy it? Or are they gonna smack it outta your hand or cross their arms and turn their back on you? Well, that's what we [00:16:00] do energetically when we're not in the vibrational match to what we want. So let me give it to you some other ways.

Helen: Think of in a company a job, if somebody's just slacking off, miserable, not enjoying work, are they gonna get the promotion or the better job offer? No. If they're saying, well, I'll work hard when they pay me enough, that's, that's backwards. That is not how it works. So in whatever analogy you need or whatever language you prefer, uh, you're not really manifesting things because there is a divine order and it's so much bigger than any human can comprehend.

Helen: You are, however, creating through clarity, intention. Understanding and consistent practice, a resonance that will let in more of whatever you're focused on consistently 

Anne: with the, with the money one, because I do think that's part of, part of [00:17:00] why I love money is that I get to use it to, I get to spread it and play with it and, uh, 

Helen: well that's money that you have and you enjoy.

Helen: And yet I was coming from a place of scarcity. Okay, so if you're trying to manifest from not having energy, okay, I don't have it. I wish I had it. Other people are sabotaging it. Why can't I have it now? What's wrong with whatever me or them or it? That's scarcity. That doesn't let in a lot of good things.

Helen: But if you're coming from, oh, there's plenty of this, my turn's coming. Yeah. You know, for me it was, again, I worked on financial scarcity and abundance for a really long time, and now it would take that long to undo it. 

Anne: Yeah. 

Helen: You know, when I started really noticing how much lavish abundance is in the world, I.

Helen: It was a very different experience to drive down like a wealthy income street, a neighborhood, and just be amazed at all the lavish abundance and architecture and cars and [00:18:00] homes and landscaping and, I don't know, solar panels, whatever, compared to before seeing it in feeling lack. Does that help a little bit.

Helen: There's a big difference. 

Anne: Yeah. It's not that the focus that's necessarily the the block, it's where you're coming from with that focus. And 

Helen: so it's interesting. We haven't. We're getting there, but not quite all the way yet. Previously, medicine, weight loss health has all been on, let's fix what's wrong, instead of studying health instead of studying what they do.

Helen: That's different than how do athletes act compared to people who want to be athletic. How do successful people manage money compared to people who, you know, it's just up and down, up and down, up and down. Mm-hmm. Right. Yeah. I remember hearing a speaker once, um, he, he said, you know, there was a time when I studied how millionaires [00:19:00] think.

Helen: He goes, now I'm ready to find out what's different about how billionaires think than millionaires, because that's where I wanna go next. And that was eyeopening to me, like, uh, like how does spiritual people think for the level I wanna go to? How do Happy Mothers think compared to what I was exposed to?

Helen: How do you know what makes kids thrive? Um, compared to what I was taught where I didn't feel heard and didn't feel safe, right? It's studying, which means you change your, your thoughts, which means eventually your feelings will change, which means you have new beliefs, which means then you're a magnet or a complimentary vibration to bring it in.

Anne: Awesome. Do you have 

Helen: a question for Zoe? Yes. So Zoe, I would encourage you to forget about your spouse blocking anything and really hone down to whatever it is you're manifesting people who have it, what are they doing differently than you? [00:20:00] How are they thinking, speaking, feeling about what it is you want that you don't have yet, um, the people who have it.

Helen: And then really look at, do all your beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions match. The future you that has that, that's what you wanna look at. 

Anne: Love it. I, every time we talk about this, I feel like I get it at a little bit deeper level and I get to play with it more and more. So keep the questions coming.

Anne: Thanks for. Continuing to dive deeper on this with us. I definitely am benefiting a lot selfishly, 

Helen: so, yes. Thank you so much for the question. We really appreciate it. 

Anne: Absolutely. Thank you Helen, for another great week. And, uh, anything else you wanna throw in there? 

Helen: No, I just, uh, wish for us all an expansion of.

Helen: All the things we'd like to experience next. And just remember everything you want [00:21:00] that you don't have right this minute is just outside your comfort zone. So what are you gonna focus on to expand your comfort zone? 

Anne: Love it. Update us. Let us know how it goes. All right. All right, well, we'll see next week.

Anne: Thank you so much everyone. Bye. Bye. That's all for today. We'll be back next Thursday with our next episode. You can subscribe if you'd like to get new episodes when they drop. And reviewing and sharing the pod will help others find our community. We love getting your questions at Hello at metaphysical Street Smart.

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Helen: We invite [00:22:00] you to re-listen. Join us on our next episode, send us questions because it is our intent to support you at this tumultuous time on Earth into the best experience of you. 

Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay grounded.