Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one. 

Anne: As always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in. All good. Hi Helen. How are you doing this week? 

Helen: Doing good. How are you? 

Anne: I'm doing [00:01:00] well. Just enjoying as always, in the summer at the sunshine. I am always enjoying it. How's your, how are your flowers doing? 

Helen: Oh, amazing. And the butterflies should be coming in strong, what, in about another few weeks.

Helen: I think they show up again August. We've had less. We still have some, and I'm looking for the hummingbirds too, which will come August. Meanwhile, the, the flowers have been attracting a lot of bees. 

Anne: That's good too. 

Helen: Yeah, and I just enjoy the, the flowers so much. 

Anne: I spent. Time, we've got this tree in our front yard and I turned our, our, um, park strip, nature strip, whatever you call it, in your part of the world, um, into a wild flower, native flower area.

Anne: And I, but I made a little fairy garden around the base of the tree and I painted [00:02:00] fairy doors. It's an avalanche birch, so the tree itself is white. So I painted fairy doors and. The boys. Oh my gosh. No, you have 

Helen: to send me a picture, please. Oh, I 

Anne: will. It's so fun. The boys and I have just been, we just go and check on the ferries and the everything.

Helen: I love it. 

Anne: So fun. 

Helen: Let's see, we're still in this month. You can check on my website and see some replays or there'll be links loaded for some tapping that ties into our early podcasts. That'll be on YouTube for people to enjoy, uh, having. D, I can't think of the, how I wanna say that word. Dived in, dove in to tapping.

Helen: Dividend. Haven't been in that energy field of tapping. Consistently with a group of people in a while, and it's, uh, it's a lot of fun and I like to think people are benefiting from it. I know. I always do. [00:03:00] So you, I know you enjoy the meditations, right? Mm-hmm. And I, I do too. And I enjoy the tapping because I never know what words are coming through.

Helen: I always feel like I learned from them also. So they're, they're joyous. Yeah. 

Anne: I love the, the tapping too. So I'm here for all of it. And, uh, yeah, it'll have, they'll have links to re-listen to the earlier episodes if you need a refresh as well. So go check that out on helen rays.com. 

Helen: And now what's our cosmic nudge for the week?

Anne: Our, well, my cosmic nudge for the week was to ask, what's your advice when spending time around? What I would have heard referred to as energy vampires, Debbie Downers, um, people who are more pessimistic than the average human that I spend time with typically. 

Helen: Um, well, I love that you're, it's not your average.

Helen: That's pretty [00:04:00] nice. 

Anne: Yeah, 

Helen: right. So my personal opinion, I'll give you opinion first is, and then advice. My personal opinion is, for me, it's an opportunity to keep upping my game in radiating non-judgment piece and, and inner stability, confidence that when I don't engage with it and I don't judge it and I don't make it wrong and I don't.

Helen: Actively avoid it. Um, I don't seek it, but I don't actively avoid somebody because of it. Then it's about dropping into my heart and radiating Christ consciousness, love and acceptance. Now, on my journey there, there was a lot of mental games. I played like, oh, I used to sound just like that. Please help me keep my mouth zipped and my heart open.

Helen: Right? Or things like, oh, thank you that I'm no longer. On a rant like that and not [00:05:00] even knowing it, they don't know what they're saying. How may I get comfortable in my body without intraining vibrationally to it? How may I listen in a way that blesses me? Buses them. And also, you know, if it was a phone call or something, it was always good to have alarms.

Helen: You have to honor your stamina. So my advice, that's my opinions and experiences, my advice on how do you deal with the negativity around us, whether it's news on tv, the radio, sometimes you drive with people who. Are they critical? Or even in a social setting, right, or maybe a family member that can happen.

Helen: You have to hit, you have to define a target you can hit. You wanna hit the target that you personally decide. Who do you wanna be in the witnessing of somebody trapped in that unconscious behavior can you know they're not doing it on purpose. It's just [00:06:00] their brain's in a loop. The ego's running the show, and it's just a fear-based repetitive pattern.

Helen: You'll find that the, that it's usually, it's just they're saying the same thing over and over and over. It's not like it expands into new concepts. Right. And so you wanna decide, do you wanna be around this person or is it unavoidable? And if that's true, either, either one, who do you wanna be in that? How do you wanna show up?

Helen: What makes you feel good about who you are in the world by how you respond to that. So previously, it's a reaction You wanna be in conscious choice of how you respond. Now the fascinating part is the more you can drop the judgment, the, and not entrain to their negativity by judging them negatively, um, the less they complain.

Helen: It's a really fascinating [00:07:00] thing to witness and the better you get at feeling compassion, because when we are complaining and come on, all of us have done, been there, done that, and still do on occasion, right? When people are in that fear, that victim consciousness, that blame game, it's because they don't feel safe.

Helen: They don't feel whole. And I only want compassion for that 'cause I spent decades that way, right? So the more I can practice the skill, the development, the stamina and skill. Of opening my heart with non-judgment and having true compassion for all of us trapped in the crazy mind at times, the more it literally transforms me and them.

Helen: And it's just a matter of stamina, building stamina, and skill, right? And so it has to be, what's your target? What are you aiming for? Are you aiming to stand there annoyed and just be able to walk away from it and [00:08:00] drop it off, like, uh, water off a duck's back? Or is your goal, uh, to schedule better so you're not stuck around them?

Helen: Or is your goal. To really love how much progress you've made personally or is your goal to radiate love and non-judgment? You have to pick and then figure out how you can practice your way into being awesome at whatever you pick. 

Anne: Yeah. Okay. Yeah, because I think, I mean, everyone as far as I know, needs, it's a useful tool, being able to blow off steam by ranting, getting something out.

Anne: There's a difference between being kind of chronically in that state, and so that's more what I'm referring to. 

Helen: Yeah. Wouldn't you want true compassion for people trapped in a chronic state Because then you don't feel good when you're doing that. You might feel good if you have a time to rant because you know you're dumping and getting over it and then you're through with it.[00:09:00] 

Helen: But somebody in a chronic state, they don't feel that good. And I will notice certain people that were around a lot and. They do transform, because in my family we just don't do that. Right? So if it's a social setting, friends. Will be really positive, but then their stamina runs out and they'll have to bring up something to complain about.

Helen: And for me, it's just been a journey of can I just know how much I love the goodness of this person and so much, and this is just one little thing. They're still part of their humanness. It's nothing I need to take personally. And then I want to address, you said energy vampire. So nobody can suck your energy unless you're in agreement with it.

Helen: Now, can you entrain down to their vibe? Yes. That only means you didn't, you don't have the skill or the practice yet of raising your vibration in a way that they can't. And so if you [00:10:00] really think about it, lower negativity doesn't really like happiness and light. It doesn't try to take your energy if you feel good.

Helen: What happens is if we are not accustomed to feeling good, which is kind of a human condition, right? Human humanity as a species hasn't evolved into happiness quite yet. Then what happens is we end up in training to the negativity. They're not really sucking our energy. We just aren't maintaining our core self at a higher vibe.

Helen: Then you always wanna not make yourself wrong. Just remember, it's about stamina. And if you're hungry, if you're tired, if you're physically sick, if you have pain, if something challenging is happening to you or a loved one, it's very hard to have spiritual stamina for compassion and kindness. So then you might wanna use earth logistics and not be around people too long that are, that you are gonna [00:11:00] entrain to.

Anne: Yeah. It's about planning and being, I guess being honest about what, uh, what I'm capable of handling at the time. 

Helen: Yeah, and you know, my go-to is pray a lot when I'm struggling for that vibe that I prefer in my mind quietly. When I first started this experience, experiment and commitment, I was really had no stamina.

Helen: Now, now it's a lot better now. It's fun to see people change around me. 

Anne: It always gives me hope when you say you didn't have stamina or it was hard in the beginning. 'cause you make it look easy 

Helen: now. I like to say. Well, it really is hard until it isn't. 

Anne: Yeah. 

Helen: And that's worth hanging in there for. 

Anne: Looks like a pretty fun place to be.

Helen: It is, it's a beautiful place and I just would love to say to everybody, listening, guys, it's gonna get easier. We're in, we got like five more years of really super duper crazy chaos on our [00:12:00] planet, and yet at the same time, while the chaos is rearing up big in technology, in politics and economy, in memories, human's memories, have you not noticed you're struggling with that?

Helen: A bit more than usual. Um, all this, we've got five more years of that, and yet at the same time, it's not all bad at the same time. It's getting easier to be kind, it's getting easier to laugh, it's getting easier to be forgiving. Both are heightened right now in the chaos before new order. So hang in there.

Helen: Your stamina, you'll grow it way easier than I did. Uh, it's, it's an amazing time to be conscious. 

Anne: That's a, i I feel like I don't hear the other side of the. Um, like, yeah, everything's gonna be crazy for five years. I don't hear the side of like Yeah. And also the, the good things are heightened too.

Anne: Everything's really heightened right now. 

Helen: Everything. 

Anne: Yeah. 

Helen: And so whatever stamina you have is gonna pay off. [00:13:00] 

Anne: Yeah. 

Helen: Right. That's the beautiful. 

Anne: And I say good things. It's all, it's all necessary and important. But I guess I mean, more the fun things. It's more fun to feel happy and connected and 

Helen: yeah, and the more conscious you are in choice, like, I want to enjoy this time, or I want to connect at a heart level, even if they're trapped in a chronic condition of mind or body, um, you're gonna find you're successful more often than ever before.

Anne: Okay, that's helpful. Going like, I really, I like spending time with this person because of this. And so if I wanna have that benefit, I just have to figure out how to offset the, the difficulty that I have. In it or, or, well, you have to feeling drained. 

Helen: You have to consider a different target so that it's [00:14:00] not difficult.

Helen: Mm-hmm. If your, if your target is to offset the difficulty, well then you're gonna experience difficulty. So you wanna have frame a different target. I want to develop patience, compassion. I want to remember how I used to be just like that and forgive myself. You know, you wanna aim a target, a positive response target to replace the difficulty.

Anne: Okay, I can do that. I'm gonna experiment with it. 

Helen: Right? Matt Conn, he's, he's such a good teacher. He, um. He says, you know, again, you have to do this with good timing, but when somebody just barfs out a bunch of fear-based negative thought patterns, he'll say, oh, thank you so much for trusting me to share what you feel so strongly about.

Anne: Oh, yeah. 

Helen: So he verbally coaches his frequency into a higher loving [00:15:00] acceptance. Then the person has more capability of transforming into a better conversation. Eckhart Tolay, um, in his book, A New Earth, I believe, you know, he just does it through presence. Somebody will realize, oh, I'm just repeating things that don't really matter, and they just taper off.

Helen: That's my target. I'd love to be able to do that consistently, right? Be the peace we wanna see in the world. 

Anne: Okay, I guess I'll do that. Are we ready for our listener question this week? 

Helen: Absolutely. What do we got? 

Anne: Okay, so this week we've got a question from Danny and, uh, let's see. So can you explain what it means to be in your feminine or masculine energy and how to know which one I'm in?

Anne: I feel pretty masculine a lot of the time and would love to allow myself to drop into my feminine. 

Helen: So the way I define feminine [00:16:00] and masculine, we, we all have both. Um, masculine is your results grounded, A plus B equals C. It's more of you do this and you know that's gonna happen, like, like a consequence or an outcome, right?

Helen: Masculine is about taking physical action. Having results, it can be very productive. Feminine is not so measurable. Feminines more about creativity and spirit. Feminine is the feeling place. The lovey-dovey, the creativity, the happiness, the joy, the connection. It's, it's that which you can't like touch and measure.

Helen: Where physical action you can measure. I did, you know, I hiked for two hours or I did the accounting and got all the numbers to match on this whatever project. [00:17:00] And then right now, on Earth, what's happening is the masculine energy, not men, but the masculine energy is out of balance because it's misusing power.

Helen: The actions it's taking physically with money with in within organizations is outta balance and the feminine. When the feminines outta balance, that's when we have codependency and addiction. So right now on Earth, it's all kind of wonky. It's a great time to ask a question like this to really look at where am I taking right action physically and also taking right action for my emotional self.

Helen: And when I say emotional self, I don't mean you're a drama queen. I mean your creative, loving, nurturing, happy, laughing, connecting, giving, and receiving. Feeling place, self. 

Anne: Okay. I just, I relate to this question 'cause I do feel sometimes I [00:18:00] feel relatively leaning, like I'm leaning toward the masculine more than feminine.

Anne: And, um, well, 

Helen: I gotta say on the podcast, thank goodness or nobody would get to hear it. You take all the actions to make it available, to keep us in a timeframe to set it up so it sounds good. That's all masculine. When you and I are talking, that's the feminine, the curious, the thoughts, the feeling place, the imagination, the self-growth.

Helen: So, so actually I interrupted you to point out, it's a really good balance with the podcast. 

Anne: No, totally. And I forget that and I was just, I was thinking like, oh, well it's the out of balance feminine. It's not that it's not there necessarily, it's that it's not. I'm not allowing it to manifest in healthy ways or ways that benefit me.

Anne: So it was just interesting to have that pop in and go, oh, there is feminine there. [00:19:00] It's just a out of balance feminine. 

Helen: I love how you word the balance would be where it benefits you. That's beautiful. So think of you as a mom. The masculine is you're gonna take your kids out to play or to do the fairy garden around the tree, right.

Helen: You make sure they have sunscreen if they need it, or shoes on or, or no shoes if you're gonna play in the hose. You know, those are masculine action steps. The giggling, the laughing, the enjoying the imagination that's feminine. Cooking, a delicious meal, the pots and pans, the ingredients. That's all masculine energy.

Helen: You have to buy it, have it on hand. You can't start it, and then run to the store halfway and while it's in the oven and add. Whatever an ingredient after. So the masculine is the physicality, setting up everything you need. The feminine is loving what you're doing, loving, feeding and nourishing your own body and others.

Helen: Loving that. It comes out delicious. That's the [00:20:00] feminine. So really everything we do on earth, you know, masculine and feminine, it's like body and spirit. It's like using logic and heart. In balance, it would benefit us. And when we benefit ourselves, we benefit others too at that level. Another term I would call it is the heart, mind harmony, because if you're all heart, say you're amazing artist or songwriter and you're all heart, you'll never do the business end and make it available to people.

Helen: I mean, you could get, you know, a, um, a person, an agent to do that. Yeah, that would be, they hold the masculine, you stay in the feminine. Um, if you're, but if you're all hard, you could have so much creativity, so much to give the world and never take the physicality, physicality and the physical steps to make it available, to spread it.

Helen: And then if you're [00:21:00] all in the masculine and you don't have any heart there, that's when you misuse power. That's when you limit the expansion of love through right action.

Helen: So a good business, you think of business as just all masculine energy. It's not because a really good successful business has a mission statement that has heart. 

Anne: Yeah. I think that there's a, i, I do myself a disservice when I forget to remember that it's not, it's not. Masculine is manly, feminine is womanly.

Anne: It's, it doesn't have anything to do with these genders that, that we've assigned. No. It, it has, it's, it's just masculine and feminine are just words we've put to these, to a balance that already exists. 

Helen: Yeah. Which is really [00:22:00] goofy today because what's considered feminine in clothing is different to everybody.

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: You know, um, when I was younger it was more defined. That's feminine, that's masculine and looks. Mm-hmm. And today that's not true. It's all merging. And so, yes, it comes back to how am I perceiving it? What is my target? Am I lovingly engaging at a level I want where it is? Heart, mind, harmony. You know, for me personally, I want the heart to lead and the mind to show up well as a tool so it can.

Helen: Which is a long way for my old codependent self, or one to fix everybody, save everybody, and didn't take responsibility for my own self first. 

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: Right. That's feminine out of balance. 

Anne: Oh, it's just another puzzle piece on the long journey to trying to become who I wanna be, I guess. 

Helen: And it's, again, it's are you trying to become who you wanna be or are you already amazing?

Helen: And just expanding the [00:23:00] goodness. 

Anne: Yeah. It's more the having the experience I wanna have as me, the next 

Helen: experience you wanna have. Mm-hmm. So everything you went next that you don't have already is just outside your comfort zone or you'd have it right. And so what if expanding the comfort zone just means expanding stamina and capacity and skillset for more good versus.

Helen: Trying or not there yet. 

Anne: I love that you say expanding the comfort zone, not stepping out of the comfort zone. 

Helen: No, you just have to expand it. The things I do today, you know, being on a podcast where you ask me questions and I don't know what they're gonna be in advance. That wouldn't have been comfortable 10 years ago.

Helen: Now you can ask me anything and I feel pretty confident, and if I can't answer, I'm okay with that too, right? Wouldn't have felt that way before. So my comfort zone is very expanded. Make sense? Mm-hmm. [00:24:00] 

Anne: Yeah. Well, you've never not knocked it out of the park, so I guess you should have a huge comfort zone.

Helen: For teaching? I do. Maybe not in everything, but in teaching. Yes. In sharing, uh, what I believe is beneficial. Yes. I ha I do have a big comfort zone now, and it wasn't always that way. Right? Mm-hmm. So how do you get more comfortable knowing you're rocking awesome right where you are and how can you expand in the areas you want to?

Anne: Alright, well that's our time for this week. I think there are so many things we could go into more on this, so we'll dive deeper another time, but 

Helen: sounds good. 

Anne: Okay. 

Helen: Okay. Thank you everybody. Have a wonderful week. 

Anne: Thanks Helen. Appreciate you being here and showing up and knocking it out of the park. Thank you.

Anne: See you next time 

Helen: next week. Bye-bye.[00:25:00] 

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Helen: We invite you to re-listen. Join us on our next episode, send us questions because it is our intent to support you at this tumultuous time on Earth into the best experience of you.

Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay [00:26:00] grounded.